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    keyblade
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    I doubt it will change any opinions but he but didn’t write anything about his company buying him a new car. If he is getting reimbursed for mileage or receiving a set monthly amount and their cars are in working condition, I’m guessing a third vehicle is a choice and they’d get the money back either way (which is fine). I figured he knows he wants a manual car because he likes diving them better, cost, and because many prefer the precision. Maybe it’s a plus for him that his wife won’t drive it.

    He didn’t say anything about requiring a new car, only that he was shopping for a “work car” and it wouldn’t change their budget. Maybe he keeps his space styled a certain way and it wouldn’t hurt for him to get something new he likes. The conflict seems to center around autonomy and control over this decision. He doesn’t seem to think she has any reason to object, so he’s discounting her opinion.

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    So what if it was purposely searched for and found and stick shift car? “That she can’t drive” …. bullshit, CHOOSES not to learn to drive… fine, there’s two other cars that she can drive. Btw, speaking about having a job that gives you a car or pays for a car to drive for work, my father works in construction, the company he works for, lets him pick and choose what year make model and color of what he wants and leases it every 3 to 5 years. Most companies don’t do that, yes, but some do. Again when I commented on this, it was because i can see through the bs argument he presented trying to make it seem like this was practical, it’s most likely not, i just think he wants and older or more fun vehicle and he can afford it or they can afford it and she said “no” ( she isn’t his mother or boss btw) so, i mean if i were in this situation I’d offer “hey pick which one of of our cars you want to sell or trade in, we will keep one of them, pick out what YOU want and then compare prices and go from there if it’s that big a deal. 9 pages of this is ridiculous, guy wants the car wife said no he takes issue with this. We all told him enough opinions so far, i so wish @Erick @eric @Erik ( whatever) would reply to clear the smoke here

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    No, she’s not his mother or boss, she’s his wife. Presumedly an equal partner in their relationship. Clearly he respects her enough to ask her opinion on making a large purchase and she gave it. There aren’t enough details to extrapolate much more than that. He never said his work was paying for the car. Since it’s coming out of their budget, and he asked her opinion- most likely not a car funded by work. Maybe they refund for gas and mileage. Maybe he’s a door to door salesman on his own. We’ll never know.

    Considering he’s married and didn’t include various colorful insults, I have to assume he actually might care about his wife, value her opinion even when it differs from his own and wanted ideas to figure out a way to change her mind instead of reading eight pages about how she (and most women commenting here) are selfish idiots.

    All of the examples of actual times when she might need to drive it however briefly really seem to have struck a nerve.

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    IfImay

    I feel like this guy, since he never came back to answer, it just trying to grind our gears , so to speak. Wanted to get something going and just ghosted the thread

    #845824 Reply

    Maybe he talked more with his wife and they made a great compromise.

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    Maybe all the arguing helped him put things in perspective and they are cuddled up talking about her future dream car and describing how they think the driving lessons he’ll provide for his new car will go for her❤️

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    IfIMay

    Haha love it, i mean seriously though, do people even know after they write in that things have been responded to? Or is it up to them to check? I honestly want more answers here. All this back and forth amd bickering amongst everyone… i just want some more input

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