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  • #845649 Reply
    bittergaymark
    Bittergaymark

    As Bagge72 said — many of you are fucking batshit crazying all over this letter. So much projection! It’s hilarious.
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    PS — it’s also even fucking more HILARIOUS how precious little some of you know or grasp about cars. NEWSFLASH of an example: in pretty much EVERY make and model of automobile, a stick shift is fucking cheaper by AT LEAST a thousand bucks. It’s NEVER more ecoensive to get a stick shift.
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    Look… We get it. Some of you are CLEARLY married to assholes or something. (Who must make you drive shitty cars where parts fall off at each and every intersection.) But seriously — stop hanging your shit onto every male LW. None of them are your bitch — to misquote a timely old Madonna classic.

    #845650 Reply
    bagge72
    bagge72
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    Again you guys are making up all sorts of scenarios, he said it is his work car and he is exclusively driving it! Why do we keep talking about other peoples situations with three cars, and what they do with it. None of that matters. People are literally making up situations for this guys just so they can be mad at him. He didn’t say she should be happy driving an older car, or that they really are older cars, just that they have two other cars to use for everyday life outside of work that have high-ish mileage. Then people keep talking about that it’s their money, but how do we know that? It’s at little or no cost to them, so maybe he’s being reimbursed by his work for most of the cost. I’m guessing they have figured out life with only two cars so far, they they pretty much know that there isn’t some crazy event that requires her to drive his work car.

    #845651 Reply
    bittergaymark
    Bittergaymark

    PS — saying NO to something when you are wrong. SHOULDN’T count for something. EVER.

    #845652 Reply
    bittergaymark
    Bittergaymark

    It’s fucking bizarre, bagge72. Isn’t it?

    #845657 Reply
    bagge72
    bagge72
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    Yes very! Just let the guy buy the car he wants for his work!

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    keyblade
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    “We have two well-functioning vehicles, albeit with high-ish miles, that she drives.”

    I was thinking that they have two vehicles between them now and that they both regularly drive them both. If they have two vehicles but for some reason he will end up paying the same amount to buy something which is more fuel-efficient (for example he’s been driving a gas-guzzling pick-up truck and has a longish daily commute), I can understand why he feels he ought to pick out a car he likes if he’s mainly going to be using it. I guess I wonder if they BOTH think this car is exclusively for his own use. Would she like a new vehicle but doesn’t think she should spend the money on one?

    Personally, I don’t care that much. I wouldn’t mind if my husband bought a stick for work. But I wouldn’t want to buy a car if my spouse felt strongly opposed to it. I’m assuming the op married someone he likes and this isn’t a power struggle, but maybe he really does just need to buy himself a third vehicle for work and his wife is being self-centered or disagreeable for no reason.

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    Ele4phant

    So…why do you even need three cars anyways? You say cars – so I don’t think you’re one of those households that has two functional cars and then a work truck or something.

    Honestly I’m having a hard time imagining why a reasonable person would object to a third vehicle that they can’t drive, assuming there are two other practical cars they can drive and this third car is also practical. Like yeah sure there is a small chance she may need to drive it, but it’s a slim chance.

    But on the other hand – why does your household need three practical cars? Something is fishy here. Is this practical fun car you want not so practical, and her objection is not really about the car being something she can’t drive? Maybe it’s more about not wanting to spend unnecessary money when your household already has two perfectly functional cars.

    I feel like maybe you’re giving us the best possible spin on this situation so you get the answer you want…

    Side note though to the person who was insinuating a car can’t be practical and fun – driving stick *is* just fun. In high school I had a hand me down manual Toyota tercel, and yeah, even though it was a total 1980s mom car; it was so fun to drive. Loved it.

    But if she doesn’t want to learn to drive stick she doesn’t want to learn, that’s fine. And honestly my bet is she doesn’t think they need a third car, full stop.

    Because honestly – what household needs three cars?

    #845678 Reply
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    ele4phant

    Maybe I’m thinking too much from my own perspective, but if my husband came to me and was like, hey I want this third car for my work car, for practical reasons, I’d probably be like: What? No, we don’t need three cars. Not even so much because of the cost to the budget, but because of the environment and space constraints. We have street parking, so you’re saying you basically want to hog at minimum one parking spot in our neighborhood at all times? There’s no reason to do that. Do you want to sell one of our existing cars to make room for your new car? Because that would be fine, but we don’t need three cars.

    But, if he was upfront and just told me – I want this car because I just want it for fun and we can afford it, I’d probably be like, oh…okay.

    I just still can’t wrap my brain around why a two-person household would need three “practical” cars – unless you’ve got a teenager or one of them has a very specific use, like is work truck or something? Are you planning to get rid of one of your existing cars to make room for this new stick shift?

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    IfIMay

    Some people are into cars, like myself, if my wife and I already have a car a piece and they are still safe and good to go down the road, high miles or not, if We’re financially stable, and I get the itch to buy a third car, whether that be a classic, a car that needs some love and tlc to bring it back to 100% and enjoy driving it without pouring a lot of money 💰 into and putting us in a bad spot, then I’m going to get it. Stick or three on the tree or not ( 3 speed manual on the column for those who have no idea what I’m talking about) i will get it. If you don’t know how to drive stick or won’t even try to learn, then I’m sorry but it is what it is. We keep separate accounts for certain things like this and have a joint account also for family and other different situations. It’s not selfish and he is not being an asshole, or even unreasonable even. Give him a break. You live once and only once, there’s plenty of cars out there that I’ve said that one day I will own and if I can do it, I’m doing it. It’s not the end of the world. In my personal opinion, i dont care that it’s 2019, don’t care if you’re 16, 27, 47… you should make it a point to at least learn the basics of a manual transmission, you never know when you might have no other choice but to get that car where you need to be or move for an emergency.

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    ele4phant

    We’re financially stable, and I get the itch to buy a third car, whether that be a classic, a car that needs some love and tlc to bring it back to 100% and enjoy driving it without pouring a lot of money 💰 into and putting us in a bad spot, then I’m going to get it.

    See, this makes more sense to than “I need this car for practical purposes, to drive to work.”

    It’s like, no, you don’t, not when we already have two perfectly workable cars at the moment. If my husband was trying to pitch me a third car because it “makes sense”, I’d be like, no it doesn’t. What are you even talking about?

    But if he told me, I want this fun toy to tinker around with and we can afford it, I’d be much more apt to be like, yeah fine whatever.

    #845681 Reply
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    ele4phant

    My husband is not into cars, but he is into bikes.

    We have so many bikes in our garage, and many more pieces of bikes. I get it, that’s his thing, I don’t really ever have comments when he buys new ones even if they just hang out on the rack and he takes them out…rarely.

    But if he ever told me “I need this new bike for my work commute, it’s practical and makes sense and it’s just for me”, I’d be like, Dude, you’ve got three bikes that bill already in our garage. What’s wrong with any of those?

    I think the guy wants this car for fun, which is fine, but just be upfront about that.

    #845683 Reply
    bittergaymark
    Bittergaymark

    Again, WTF?! This is THEIR fucking life not yours!
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    The issue isn’t about whether or not to get a fucking third car. It’s about WHICH third car!! Fuck me gently with a chainsaw!! Can none of you read with any semblance of conprehension?!!

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