SteveFebruary 4, 2023 at 8:47 am #1118580
😔 don’t say this… I am so sorry…
fuck ! for telling me it is far too late, and when we were under the same roof, we could not share it, not communicating this way..but it was difficult, you were not ready for sure, maybe now you would be
yes i would
ok…I would love it to be honest…so, maybe we need more time……I do not want to expect something ..unexpectable (is it english ??), but I for a fact, I hope it could be possible….So Bunny, we have to try to act like adults…no one should be hurt in this story.
Without going into what was said after in that conversation the next day she had backtracked and did not want to try something giving excuse after excuse. Of course i never tackled the monkey in the room the new boyfriend, to i was confused was an understatement. Anyway I told her what I said before please do not contact me again EVER. I realized my mistake by answering her on Facebook and then blocked her on Facebook.
2 weeks later I received an email from her, which i have not replied to or do I intend to do so. But I really am at a loss to understand what this email is supposed to tell me and what was it’s purpose, to me it seems pointless and i can only think she is trying to punish me or playing some sort of stupid game?. But to what end and will she ever stop contacting me?
Razorlight – I Can’t Stop This Feeling I’ve Got
Best of Razorlight: goo.gl/zoKwvd Subscribe here: goo.gl/7fXUoW Music video by Razorlight performing I Can’t Stop This Feeling I’ve Got. (C) 2006 Mercury Records Limited
I always try to remember the best, in any way, and this song, for example, that I used to like at the beginning of our relationship was one of the best.
Then came this time, when I realized you were cheating on me, and you were sharing those songs with someone else, in your room, so for years I couldn’t bear to hear those songs. .which sounds stupid to me now..but hey ho 🙂
Now I only remember when I was happy, and that’s who I really am today, this positive person I was back then.
I hope and I want you to be happy. Frankly. Be positive and carry on”
Ok she loves drama. She cheated on you. She has a new boyfriend, but she continues to contact you because you give her the dramatic validating response that she wants. You need to actually block her on every channel so that she can’t contact you. And you need to really move on, this whatever it is has no future.
But if you need a literal translation of what she’s saying, here it is:
“I’m happy now. I’ve got my old self back finally. I wasn’t happy with you. You hurt me and were a bad communicator. I’d love to imagine we could get back what I thought we had before you cheated on me and hurt me, but i know it’s not possible. So have a nice life and I hope you can become a better person.”AnonymousseFebruary 4, 2023 at 11:29 am #1118588
Instead of writing this out script like, could you explain what actually happened? You cheated on her? She might be contacting you to hurt you because you hurt her. You’ve blocked her. Don’t respond.
And maybe become a better person who doesn’t leave people hurt and cheated on and seeking closure from you? (If that’s what happened.) Respect people. Be kind to them, and you won’t probably have too many angry missives aimed at you.AnonymousseFebruary 4, 2023 at 11:40 am #1118589
You don’t want to be mildly contacted and made to feel guilty by her sharing how you made her feel, don’t make people feel that way. They never forget how you made them feel. They’ll forget everything else, but they’ll remember if you break up with them graciously with respect and dignity or if you’re a coward and a liar and are pursuing other women and cheating. If you want to be single and pursue others, get out of monogamous relationships. Treat people well.
She’s not harassing you. She messaged you on face book and sent one email. I think you just need to confront your own conscience about your behavior. you can’t control her behavior, but you can choose how you behave.
Well, it sounds like he was hoping for another shot with her, and she was kind of like, oh, that’d be nice, but then the next day she was like nope. Which totally makes sense if someone hurt you but now some time has gone by and you’re remembering the good things, but you know the reality is this person cheated on you and you didn’t communicate well (obviously still don’t), and it would never work. That’s life, baby. You and she tried to make it, you didn’t, it’s over, you have to move on and stop having these wistful conversations.
I can’t follow what happened or tell who cheated on who. I have been cheated on by a couple of ex-boyfriends and those breakups really sucked because for me, they left me feeling like the rug had been swept out from under me. The endings were untidy, I felt like I didn’t get closure. What I learned from those experiences — both of which did entail a little bit of back and forth between myself and my exes after all was said and done — is that closure is something you give yourself. Blocking people who hurt you isn’t petty, it’s something you do for your own sake. It doesn’t sound like she’s reaching out excessively (and assuming the second half of your post is her email, I cannot understand it), but you can still block her on email, social media, phone number — literally anywhere you think she may contact you — to ensure you do not hear from her again.
So if you’re the one who cheated, take the time to self reflect. What’s going on with you on the inside that you chose that? You’ll want to deal with whatever those inner demons are before your next relationship to be a better partner.
If you’re the one who was cheated on, I’m sorry. I know how much it hurts and how much it can fuck you with you. Get yourself into therapy if you need to (it really helps!) and start moving forward. Revisiting what happened will not help no matter how many times you do so, trust me. Eventually it won’t hurt so much.