clingy or overreacting /exaggerating

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  • JEN
    January 15, 2023 at 11:54 pm #1118140

    I met my partner back in April but started officially dating on September. Two months later he asked me to move in with him and I agree as we spent more and more time in his place. Plus it made cost of living easier. However, one month and a half after moving in together he got back his old laptop and started to play games with his friends. At the beginning I had no issue at all, I mean we all have our friends and hobbies. But as time progressed he was more and more into the computer and gaming with his friends and spending less and less time with me. To the point to sleeping at different times and eating separate meals. I felt as we were more like housemates rather than a couple. One day I got super angry and told him I would leave if this kept going. For a couple of weeks it got better, but it sometimes it still feels very lonely. Am I being too clingy, am I overthinking, exaggerating? Couple days ago I asked him if he would want to marry me in 3-5 years from now… He said he didn’t know, he didn’t if we’re going to still be together. I just don’t know what to think of this.

    January 16, 2023 at 12:03 am #1118141

    You know what to think…you just don’t want to ave to think it. This guy is a lost cause. Move out and move on. Plus it was waaaay too soon to be talking about marriage. You likely are a bit ‘needy’ so work on that,but dump him and look for someone that acts like/shows he wants to be with you.

    January 16, 2023 at 6:56 am #1118142

    You definitely moved in too quickly. You were still in the honeymoon phase when all you want to do is be together.

    Look for a new place to live. See if it’s possible to resume dating instead of moving so quickly. It may not be and you may have to move on. In the future you need to give a relationship a bit more time before diving into the deep end (moving in together, talking marriage/getting married). You need to see if you still like the person after the butterflies are gone.

    January 16, 2023 at 10:03 am #1118145

    Move out. Don’t even think about marrying a guy like this, why? It’s already gone kaput.

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    January 16, 2023 at 10:33 am #1118146

    Oof. Cut your losses and move on.

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