Well, here are my thoughts.

She’s an ex for a reason. You two already had a shot at a relationship and it didn’t work out. Whatever the reasons, they’re most likely still there. When she got your email, she was curious and she responded, but after some back and forth with her initial curiosity satisfied, her interest cooled off.

She wasn’t terribly interested in talking on the phone in the first place, and then when she made the overture and you weren’t around to bite on it when it was a good time for her, she was like eh, whatever. You were only available to talk “early Sunday evening.” Which is, what, a 2 or 3 hour window on one day?

Which brings me to, why the email and computer? Is this 1999? You don’t get emails on your phone? Most people these days are communicating via text, FaceTime, messenger apps, not email and landline. Which brings me to, is this “Robert?” Get a smartphone. Don’t make people communicate on your terms.

Ok and finally, you say you’re looking for a friend, someone to talk to. Well, maybe she’s not. Maybe she has enough going on in her life and isn’t looking to be pen pals with an ex from 13 years ago who she broke up with for a reason. That’s ok.

It sounds like you were pretty invested in this: 90 minutes, 30 minutes, 11 days, 3 days… If you’re looking up old exes and being so invested in it, I wonder what else is going on in your life. Not much? That’s not a dig, I mean, it’s a tough time for many people. But I can imagine that she was curious why you reached out, she asked a lot of questions and then realized, oh, ok, he doesn’t have a lot going on and is lonely. And then, curiosity satisfied, not really looking for a friend or pen pal, reminded of why you broke up, perhaps not even single… she did a polite ghost.

So yeah, that’s probably what happened. Does that make sense?

How old are you and what are your life circumstances? When did you last have a relationship or go on a date?

Got it. Ok she messaged you back right away because she was curious and interested why you were reaching out after 13 years. That’s why she was asking a lot of questions too.

Letting 2 weeks go by before reaching out again indicates she was maybe still a bit curious but not excited or very invested. If she was excited to keep the conversation going and see if this could lead to something, she’d wait a couple days maybe.

And then it fizzled out. Again, she knows why you two broke up, it’s been 13 years, you caught her up on what’s going on with you, and she doesn’t seem interested in continuing the communication. I think the chemistry and compatibility is just not there. She’s probably a normally busy woman and isn’t looking to be a pen pal with an ex.

Why are you contacting an ex on Facebook after 13 years? Like what were you legitimately expecting back from her? Does she live in the same area as you? Is she single or married? Why are you so focused on this old relationship?

This isn’t how dating happens these days.

I think the person that said she wasn’t terribly interested in talking in the first place was right. She would have offered her phone # instead of asking for yours. She was probably being polite and a bit nosey, seeing how things have ended up for you after all these years.