- This topic has 98 replies, 7 voices, and was last updated 7 months ago by Ally.
February 13, 2020 at 8:21 am #875102
Worried that your relationship with him isn’t like with your other family members? Yes, I guess so, because it isn’t, right? If he makes you uncomfortable, you should avoid him. Don’t let him hug you if his hugs go on too long. If he touches you where you don’t like to be touched, say “Don’t do that.” Directly and firmly.February 13, 2020 at 8:24 am #875103Tabitha_McGuest
Why all the smiley emojis? They suggest you either find this funny or enjoyable. If that’s not the case they’re weirdly distracting. If it is the case, then ick.February 13, 2020 at 8:25 am #875104FYIGuest
I don’t know about over-reacting, but you are reacting in a very, very strange way. This is your cousin, for chrissakes. Your much older, married cousin. People are calling fake because it’s so creepy, and because your family members are not hitting on you. You make it sound like they were panting and gaga when you came into the room.
He walks into a room, and you call that “expressive.” That’s why people are calling this fake. You sound lonely.February 13, 2020 at 8:31 am #875105AllyGuest
I use emojis very often. Sorry about that. I was not asking for advice on my reactions or feelings since I’m aware of them. I just wanted an ‘outsider’ opinion of these reactions. I wrote exactly what and how happened. You all sound a bit bitter to me… Couldn’t just answer the question.February 13, 2020 at 8:37 am #875106
There was no question though! And I honestly cannot interpret your reaction.
Again, just avoid him. When he goes in for a hug, push him away after 2 seconds and say, “that’s enough.” Call him out for pinching your belly or whatever gross thing he does. Stay away from him. Tell your dad he makes you uncomfortable.
No one’s bitter, your letter is just weird.February 13, 2020 at 8:42 am #875107AllyGuest
Look, I know how to deal with it, all I wanted to ask is that for you who read this thread, how do his actions sound…Normal? Appropriate for a cousin? That’s all.February 13, 2020 at 8:45 am #875108
No. Your dad’s whole side of the family sounds weird.February 13, 2020 at 8:59 am #875109
But whether or not it’s normal— it either makes you uncomfortable or it doesn’t, and you should react accordingly.February 13, 2020 at 9:30 am #875111LisforLeslieGuest
Never in my life have I had to share a bed with my male adult cousins. It’s weird. The whole thing is weird.February 13, 2020 at 9:34 am #875112anonymousseParticipant
It sounds like YOU have a gross crush on your older married cousin. That’s what this sounds like. Because no one else would be over analyzing every moment of their cousins behavior.
That is wrong on multiple different levels. You sound lonely and bored. Stop hugging your cousin for over a minute. Don’t allow him to touch your stomach. Maybe stop spending so much time with your family for a little while.
To be sure, if your older cousin is giving you lingering hugs and trying to kiss you while drunk, he’s a creep. So maybe he’s a creep and you’re bored but that still doesn’t make this okay.February 13, 2020 at 9:36 am #875113FYIGuest
You specifically asked whether you were over-reacting. When people told you “Yes, you’re being weird,” you said we’re bitter. You described him as walking into a room, talking with you about your granny, and hugging you a few times, along with all your other family members — and you want us to interpret this!?
Again, he has kids and a wife and he’s your cousin. Jesus.February 13, 2020 at 10:00 am #875118AllyGuest
Seems to me you omitted a few other details . 🙂 Don’t be so offensive.