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    avatarLisforLeslie
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    You used a whole lot of words to describe a whole bunch of encounters in which you outline your anticipation and your reactions as described are anything but outright disgust and avoidance. You described this like most 20 something women talk about their crushes.

    You told this whole narrative in which you, an adult, are at the mercy of the other adults who are either trying to hook you up with your cousin or are oblivious to his creepiness. Do you want your cousin to stop? Then tell him to fucking back off like you would any other person in your life.

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    avatarAlly
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    But don’t tell me that an even admitted ‘almost kiss’ is normal from a cousin!
    Maybe it’s because we hardly ever meet ír almost feels like we are strangers, I might be indeed crushing on him? Omg I don’t want that!

    #875197 Reply
    avatarKate
    Keymaster

    No kidding you’re crushing on him! Breaking news.

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    CopaCopa
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    But don’t tell me that an even admitted ‘almost kiss’ is normal from a cousin!

    So, a few years ago I was very sick and spent five weeks in and out of the hospital. When I got back to work, the executive director saw me and told me he was so glad I was better because what I had can kill. He went in for a hug. Our heads turned in the same direction so we were cheek to cheek in an almost-kiss kinda way. I never would’ve described it as an almost-kiss, though. It was simply an awkward moment, but it was whatever. I never once read into that moment as mixed signals or anything other than two people misreading the other’s body language.

    #875226 Reply
    avatarAlly
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    Yeah, but without simply shrugging it off he even exclaimed it was an almost kiss!

    #875228 Reply
    avatarKate
    Keymaster

    And that means what?

    #875229 Reply
    avataranonymousse
    Participant

    He was drunk and it was a mistake. Just stop. It’s disgusting.

    #875230 Reply
    avatarAlly
    Guest

    That is exactly what I want to know too, really.

    #875231 Reply
    avatarktfran
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    But wasn’t everyone doing the kiss cheek thing, if I read your original e-mail correctly, which was really hard to read BTW.

    If he was drunk, it was likely a genuine mistake and he awkwardly laughed it off by making that exclamation.

    You’re over analyzing every minute detail like a girl who is in either in love, lust or crush.

    Either that or he’s truly a creep and avoid him.

    #875232 Reply
    avataranonymousse
    Participant

    This has happened to me many times and it means nothing. It means you both turned your heads the wrong way at the same time. Get over it, get help and move on.

    #875233 Reply
    avatarKate
    Keymaster

    This is gross. He’s your frickin first cousin. He’s married. Talk to a therapist. You’re acting so weird and bonkers.

    #875234 Reply
    avatarAlly
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    Haha thanks 🙂

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