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February 22, 2018 at 2:03 pm #740290
Had a pretty good date last night. Seemed like a sincere, good guy. Felt disappointed when he didn’t pay for my drink. In past dates, guys paid, but I have offered Usually guys do more in the beginning, so I’m not sure where it would go from here. Or am I being petty?February 22, 2018 at 2:08 pm #740291
Probably petty. But how did it go down when the check came? What exactly did you do and he do?February 22, 2018 at 2:22 pm #740294
I’d be put off by it. I think he should pay 100% for first date but just a single drink. Really? Either cheap or not interested.February 22, 2018 at 2:32 pm #740296
I think you’re being kinda petty, yeah. Why are you offering to pay if it’s not sincere?
You don’t mention where you met or how many times you’ve been out, but I feel extra strong that there shouldn’t be an expectation for the man to pay when it’s a first online date.February 22, 2018 at 3:14 pm #740302
Was a first date. We both went to the bathroom, he came back first, and I guess he asked for separate checks.
I offer to pay, but I prefer that he wants to pay. I appreciate the gesture.February 22, 2018 at 3:14 pm #740303
I disagree that he should pay 100%. Dating is different today than it was even 10 years ago. Before the husband, I dated someone what was 7 years my junior. Our first date, we split the bill. It had no reflection of how he felt about me… he wasn’t a cheap guy and he was 100% interested. Next date, he did pick up. And we ended up doing a lot of back and forth like that.
Anyway, I reject that today, a man should be expected to pay 100%. If women want equal rights, that should go for dating too.
LW, I think you’re being petty if you had an otherwise good time.February 22, 2018 at 3:16 pm #740304
While I agree with ktfran, there shouldn’t be an expectation, I do think it’s tacky to ask for separate checks. JMO.February 22, 2018 at 3:17 pm #740305
You don’t sound too thrilled over him so probably move on.February 22, 2018 at 3:21 pm #740306
A guy who asks for separate checks while you’re in the bathroom and it’s one drink on your tab… idk, that’s a little… uninterested in making a positive impression i guess? But it’s also lame to go to the bathroom while the check is sitting there and you’re done. In that situation I would have grabbed the check before I went to the can. Most guys I went on first dates with (I’m over 40 btw) would insist on paying it, but I would sincerely try, and at least put down cash for my own.February 22, 2018 at 3:22 pm #740307
I agree with the separate checks, especially when one is in the bathroom. It would feel a lot more natural if he accepted the offer to split.February 22, 2018 at 4:00 pm #740318
He sounds a little petty or cheap if he will ask for a separate check while you are in the restroom and it was one drink. Get ready for round two if you go on another date. Personally I would peace out.
This is also preference though. Some people want it to be old school and some people want it to be modern. Pick according to what makes you happy.February 22, 2018 at 4:19 pm #740320
When dating I always and sincerely offered to pay. I also truly appreciated it when a guy picked up the tab, particularly on a first date, very particularly on a first date for just a drink or coffee. I don’t like to be so old fashioned but yeah, this would be a turn off on a first date.