Sure, I’ve made mistakes. Quite a few! But I’ve never made a mistake that ended with me being in possession of someone else’s property.
And yes, I help people! I volunteer through organizations I care about and/or donate money to them. I have offered food, money, and/or things like the gloves off my hands or hat off my head to the homeless. I don’t drain my bank account, make rash decisions, or try to handle their issues by myself. I have no business trying to help in this way.
I also wondered if this was made up because just about every decision you made after realizing that this woman made you feel unsafe was irrational.
I’m glad you contacted that woman and hope she gets her dog back. I also hope you will spend more time focusing on yourself and your own issues and less time taking other people’s problems into your own hands.Idk2021September 15, 2021 at 11:35 am #1097764
The first time ever actually. I was unpreparedPeggySeptember 15, 2021 at 11:41 am #1097766
Hi L.W. I tend to believe you had good motives and are mostly truthful here,yet I think your reactions/actions were bizarrely over the top.
In my neighborhood there are sad cases aplenty. I have seen young women without pants or underwear. People that can barely walk upright, they are so spaced out on drugs and are flailing around. People that try to reach our balcony so they can jump off it to their likely death.
It is heartbreaking, but never have I given them any money let alone a ton of money, taken their things or personally interacted with them. And yes they can be dangerous and beyond help in many cases. Cases that even the police can only do “so much” about. Patterns that repeat themselves again and again.
I do call police/help, when people seem a danger to themselves or may harm others, whether intentionally or inadvertently. I think your judgement was very poor indeed. Glad you are seeing a therapist.
Your therapist isn’t supposed to tell you what to do, but look, if you’re going weekly then I assume you are dealing with some pretty substantial things right now. You’re “going through it.” It seems like you’re taking actions that are not in your own, or others’ best interest. You have irrational fears. You unintentionally committed a crime. That is a lot to unpack and work through… those patterns of behavior. Definitely enough to focus on there, and if you have extra money you can always donate it to reputable community groups. Or buy food vouchers to hand out even, so you’re prepared to help if someone asks for food.
I don’t know a single person who would continue to engage with a stranger with mental health issues/on drugs after that person made them feel unsafe. Nothing good would come of that. I can understand stopping to see if you can offer any sort of help initially, but not anything past the point where you realized you may be endangering yourself.Ele4phantSeptember 15, 2021 at 11:48 am #1097769
I have extended myself to help others and yes sometimes my efforts have been misguided. I have definitely made mistakes.
I have not however ever given away my entire savings in a panic nor have I kept someone’s pet without their permission for over and week and been conflicted about what to do.
You really need to check in with your therapist here more about this. Your judgement seems really broken, much more so than a normal person’s, and you still don’t seem to recognize that.
Also – does your therapist realize you still have this dog?Idk2021September 15, 2021 at 11:49 am #1097770
I guess my thoughts on that are once again that not everyone is the same as you so if you’re giving advice on an advice forum it might be beneficial to realize some people ARE irrational at times and people do things that you yourself would never even consider. That doesn’t mean we are making up stories. This site and forum used to have a lot more voices on it but y’all do tend to gang up on people who turn to you for help.
“ once again that not everyone is the same as you so if you’re giving advice on an advice forum it might be beneficial to realize some people ARE irrational at times and people do things that you yourself would never even consider.”
We do get that. That’s why we’re saying to focus on therapy.BittergaymarkSeptember 15, 2021 at 11:52 am #1097772
NEWSFLASH: Draining your bank account was just plain batshit crazy. There was no need. None whatsoever. If your therapist doesn’t harp on this, well… then you REALLY need a new fucking therapist. Clearly.Idk2021September 15, 2021 at 11:53 am #1097773
Yes my therapist does know. They also agree that the dog is better off with me because they know verbatim what the girl said to me that night. They do agree that I shouldn’t have taken in regardless.