I have a long term friend with alot of history. She has said and done hurtful things throughout the years. She became worse when she got married and she recently went through a divorce. She apologized for all she had said and done, and I truly thought she would have a wake up call and realize that how she has acted over the years would stop. She would act entitled, snotty and too good all because she had a man. I thought her getting away from him would help and she would have more compassion and caring since he was a big reason for her nasty attitude.

Her birthday was yesterday and for 2 weeks she knew me and my daughter were planning to come see her. We got her a gift and cake and my daughter was also exicted to spend time with her daughter. My friend messages me telling me she had to run to the store and then would have to leave shortly after we get there because something came up last minute. No…she ended up having plans with someone else. I wasnt going to go out of my way just to be done that way. Our visit would be rushed and to be so dismissed after trying to do something.

I feel hurt, disrespected and that we weren’t important enough to make more time for after she knew we were going out of our way to be there with her. She then asks if we can reschedule sometime this week or meet us somewhere. I havent even responded and honestly dont know if I want to be around her. My daughter will be hurt because she loves her daughter but I am done with being treated like nothing or not important enough. If I tell her how I feel, it will turn into “you are so sensitive or over reacting” or “that wasn’t my intention” and things will be akward.

I have let her push me around too much and then be made to feel bad for speaking up. I thought with her moving back and so close to me she would care more about our friendship. I even cried to her telling her how much I wanted to fix our friendship and she was sitting right in front of me texting her boyfriend and showed no emotion. I feel so weak and she has made me feel so powerless over the years and made me feel like she did so much for me and i just couldn’t measure up. She goes from being so nice and friendly to treating me like an after thought. How do I break out of this cycle? And was I being to sensitive about the birthday issue? I want to say how I feel but don’t know how to where I am heard and respected.