January 11, 2018 at 4:15 pm #735612
Been with same man for 5 years and during that time, always concerned about his financial judgement and lack of resources. We are in love BUT this issue seems to never get resolved. He lost his job (which didn’t pay much) 7 months ago and just ran out of unemployment; now he can start to collect social security. He realizes he needs another job even part time to make ends meet since he has only a modest amount of savings (which came from an inheritance) but he finally got a job a few months ago, and he gave it up because he said it was too hard to make money and he was waiting on a substitute teacher job which he believed he was getting; HOWEVER, he has a conviction for a money crime from several years ago so the school eventually turned him down. I suppose because of this and his age, getting a job is a real uphill battle. I’ve tried to help in any way I can; getting him to follow through on jobs and moving forward, but he is now applying to be a LYFT driver and that is dragging on a bit as well. Further, I did research and being a LYFT driver won’t bring in too much money after expenses (about $10/hour). He says it’s only temporary until he can get a better part time job to supplement his social security. I’ve already waited 7 months; I’m at the end of my rope; should I cut my losses? I can’t see living with him unless he gets his act together but I don’t want to give up if I’m being unreasonable. I have waited and waited to no avail.
What thoughts or advice can you offer?January 11, 2018 at 4:38 pm #735616
Move On Already. Love doesn’t put food on the table or pay hospital bills etc. A partnership should be equal & yes you support the other if times are tough, but someone who leaves a job for another job that he doesn’t actually have? One realistically he couldn’t get for a crime he committed?! Nah. He may have good qualities, but he’s not being fair to you or a good bet in the long term. Cut your losses & wish him well.January 11, 2018 at 4:43 pm #735619
I am guessing your SO is somewhere between the ages of 62 and 66, but the tone of this letter seems a lot younger. If your bf hasn’t gotten his act together by this point, the chances of it happening at all seem rather slim. Also, based on what the average maximum weekly benefit amount is under unemployment, it seems rather likely that you’ve been helping him out for quite some time, especially if his previous job was low wage. And finally, yes, at his age, finding a decent paying job is difficult, especially if he doesn’t have experience in professional/higher paying jobs. However, that statement is contradicted by the fact that he actually did have a job and then decided to quit.