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Dear Wendy

Do I tell?

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    Shannon

    My ex husband keeps asking me to get back together with him, telling me I’m the love of his life, will never love anyone like he loves me, wants to have sex with me; it goes on and on… Should I tell his girlfriend?
    BTW He cheated on me when we were married.

    #843282 Reply

    Unless you have kids or some other good reason that you have to maintain contact, just tell him to fuck off and block his number. If you reach out to the girlfriend he can paint you as the crazy one trying to sabotage his relationship.

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    Shannon

    We have kids and have to communicate.I have all of the messages on my phone.

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    Kate
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    What would be your motivation for telling her?

    One thing to consider is that it’s not going to do your co-parenting relationship any favors. It will just make things more antagonistic and fucked up.

    Imo, better to just tell him to cut the shit. Why are you even entertaining this nonsense, why not just tell him to stop, and only communicate with you regarding the kids.

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    Shannon

    He is not a coparent. He rarely pays child support and only spends time with our son bc our daughter is autistic. His girlfriend has bought him a car, a boat, and a club membership. He barely works bc he doesn’t have to. He tries to lure the kids with his “stuff”. I’m a public school teacher supporting them almost 100%. So yes, my motivations are probably not goodbye , hence the advice.

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    Kate
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    Yeah, your motivation would be revenge, and no good can come of that.

    Just tell him to knock it off and to only communicate with you about the kids. You could ask him how he’d like for his gf to see these messages, but don’t actually do it.

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    Kate
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    And I mean, you know she’s a poor sucker who’s spending all her money to try to keep a man who’s a total loser and cheating or trying to cheat on her. You don’t need to take any action.

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    golfer.gal

    I mean, she knows he’s a cheater. She helped him cheat when he was with you, and if she thinks he wouldn’t do it to her she’san idiot. You’re better to tell him to cut the shit and leave it at that. I get why it’s tempting, but telling her isn’t worth the drama. If he isn’t pulling his weight taking care of your children, consider addressing that through the courts (if that’s possible) and seeking support for yourself (counselling, a single parent support group, etc.)

    #843302 Reply

    Tell him to start paying child support (past owed and current) and you’ll consider his offer.

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