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  • Jared
    August 28, 2022 at 10:58 pm #1115657

    When I was sitting at the table by myself and I was on my phone & there was a chair next to me and the girl I liked was with her friends and she saw that there was chair next to me. so she went over to get the chair while I was on my phone but she stand there for a few minutes but then she got the chair and went back to her friends.

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    Kate
    August 29, 2022 at 5:40 am #1115658

    She was hoping to get your attention momentarily to ask if it was okay to take the chair. That’s what normal people do before taking a chair. She couldn’t get your attention and gave up and just took the chair.

    Also, I’m not sure what you mean by “on my phone,” but whether you were speaking with someone or just playing on your phone, I’m curious why you didn’t look at / acknowledge/ smile at / say hi to her?

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    WhyDoWeExist
    August 29, 2022 at 6:48 am #1115659

    She didn’t want anything from you other than the chair. She was standing there to be polite. If she wanted to have an actual conversation with you, she would have sat down and waited for you to get off the phone or tapped you politely on the shoulder and gestured at the chair. That’s not what happened.

    That said, this was, however, an excellent opportunity to at least exchange some words with her, even if only exceptionally briefly, which according to the law of propinquity, would only have been to your advantage.

    I had a similar thing happen at college (seminary) the other day. A random girl came up to me wanting to chat while I was doing some paperwork for work that needed to be finished right there and then. I asked her politely to please give me a few minutes to complete the form I was busy filling out, and then I would be happy to give her my full attention. She understood, and I went back to what I was doing. I quickly completed the form, and then we had a pleasant conversation.

    Now what you could have done here was ask the person you were on the phone with to give you a minute so you could find out what she wanted from you and then make plans accordingly. This way, you show interest in positively interacting with her for at least a brief period. You aren’t giving anything away, but at the same time, you seem friendly.

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    Anonymousse
    August 29, 2022 at 12:10 pm #1115662

    Kate is correct. She wanted the chair, you probably didn’t look up or acknowledge her presence, so she took it and left.

    If you are interested in other people, put your phone away and give them some attention. You’ll make friends, you won’t sometimes, you might meet a girl, maybe you won’t but a woman taking a chair from where you were sitting near means absolutely nothing.

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    Anonymousse
    August 29, 2022 at 12:13 pm #1115663

    WDWE I’m so curious how old you are. You’re in seminary, but you’ve said you came to it later in life. I’m curious why you won’t tell us more about your life. This is an anonymous website.

    I am betting almost 99% “on my phone” means screwing around on their smartphone, not actually speaking aloud to someone on the other end of the line. I’m 39 and on my phone means killing time with social media, news or texting.

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    WhyDoWeExist
    August 30, 2022 at 2:11 am #1115667

    I’m in my late 20’s. Before my current vocation. I trained as Software Engineer. I taught it at a local college and ran a small consultancy. Anything else you want to know, @annoymouse?

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    Anonymousse
    August 30, 2022 at 8:23 am #1115668

    I didn’t mean to offend you. Most of us know a little about each other. Some of your opinions and ideas strike me as someone of a different age.

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    WhyDoWeExist?
    August 30, 2022 at 8:06 pm #1115676

    Not offended. I grew up in the third world, before escaping to the first when I was 16. So my cultural baggage may make me seem of a different age.

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    Fyodor
    August 31, 2022 at 3:55 pm #1115731

    @jared if you pay $500 for my online PUA course I will teach you about women’s secret attraction signals so you will know if people asking for chairs are interested romantically.

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    Anonymousse
    August 31, 2022 at 5:05 pm #1115738

    I want to take this course.

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