she is not talking about you. she is not thinking about you. you are patently not off social media if you are monitoring her through your friends’ account.Don’t do that. Now’s probably a difficult time to get help for your obsessive tendencies, but some phone help lines are still open. Try to find something else (not someone else) to focus your attention on, this is keeping you from other things which would probably make you feel a lot better.
Tell your friends to not tell YOU ANYTHING about ANYBODY and what they’re posting on social media. If you wanted to know yourself you’d be on social media and you’re not. Obviously they’re enabling your crazy and you need to tell them to stop.