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MimiJanuary 21, 2024 at 12:33 pm #1127800
I’m 30 f working in an international company. Ive started to talk to a guy working in the same company but he is working in the branch office in different city where I am working.
I saw his photos on insta. He treats me very very nicely and we get on well in base and he is also very kind and easy to work with.
Now my question is im kind of worried that I will not like his look.
Ive been always through relationships with avoidant ones and always wanted a family. This guy wants the same and love all his manners.
so do you think I should be focused only the ‘look’ bit? Thank you for advices from nowDiDiJanuary 21, 2024 at 2:39 pm #1127804
Just meet him and then decide. Of course, looks aren’t the most important thing. But there must be attraction for it to work.AnonymousseJanuary 21, 2024 at 5:23 pm #1127807
You said you saw his photos on Instagram. How do you not know what he looks like?
I’m just gonna blow past how this reads like you are using work time/tools to essentially online date and assume everything is above board with your employer and that you live within relatively close proximity to one another.
So… no, you should not just focus on looks in dating. Attraction is important, but that’s more than just about looks for most of us. I will say, however, that it doesn’t sound too promising if you saw his IG and didn’t like what you saw to the point that you are concerned about “the ‘look.'”
You seem to be jumping the gun here either way. It doesn’t sound like you’ve met him in person, but talk about loving all his manners and wanting the same things, but you can’t really know much of anything about him until you meet in person. So start there.LisforLeslieJanuary 22, 2024 at 8:07 am #1127813
Attractiveness is important, but most people fall into what I call “the loveliness” category. When two people really get along, their attractiveness increases. Someone might be average looks but to someone who loves them for who they are – they see the person as very handsome/beautiful. Conversely, someone may be objectively beautiful may have a terrible personality and the people around them see them as less attractive as a result.
Meet this guy in person, have a conversation.