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    Skyblossom
    Skyblossom
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    The hold expired and they placed the dog with a new owner. That’s how these things work. They shouldn’t have told the OP anything about the previous owners coming in.

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    Kate
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    Yeah, that’s where I do agree the shelter could have done better.

    Also, my dog gets treated like a little king, and he’s got people home all day, but I still think he’d be happy to go live with his friend Minnie because she has a squeaky ball and her dad has freeze-dried chicken treats. And hey, he’s a Harvard professor/brain surgeon, maybe he’d be a better dad than us.

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    Copa
    Copa
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    @ele4phant – The dog wasn’t adopted until the hold period was over. Adoption applications can be reviewed and adoptions finalized very quickly at some shelters. One shelter I volunteer for, a desirable dog might be there for an hour or less. A friend of mine got his dog in the exact way as LW, minus the shelter calling him after to say the original owners had surfaced.

    I don’t think LW is inherently in the wrong if she keeps the dog. But I know I wouldn’t absent physical or behavioral signs of abuse. I’d also complain to the shelter about contacting adopters after an adoption is finalized. I’m not sure if this is standard, but it doesn’t seem like a great practice.

    I also think if we are going to clear the shelters, we can’t just rely on already-great owners to keep adopting. Educating on responsible ownership can go a long way with owners who simply don’t know better. My dog is from a hoarding situation, and the family actually didn’t know to get their pets spayed/neutered. They were very nice people and loved their dogs (all, like, 47 of them), but they did things many of us think is dumb and against common sense. I’ve seen dogs come in to my city shelter dirty, completely matted, covered in bites, totally emaciated… and way worse. THOSE are the owners I’d never try to reunite with their animals.

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    Nicole Pasalagua

    Yes, it is a moral dilemma. By law, you can have him now. But you know in your heart that this dog belongs to someone else and that is why you feel bad.

    I like what someone else said. Give him back to his home and get another dog. Two lives saved

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    Kate
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    Or, the dog goes back home, this happens again, and that time he gets euthanized or god forbid hit by a car.

    #847800 Reply
    TheLadyE
    TheLadyE

    I agree with Kate and Wendy 100%. Sorry but $130 is a drop in the bucket of what it costs to be a good dog owner/parent and care for an animal. If you can’t come up with that to SAVE YOUR DOG FROM A KILL SHELTER in several days and also you DON’T EVEN COMMUNICATE WITH THE SHELTER you are unfit to own a dog. Period, end of story. Dogs are not a basic human right; they are living beings who need care and cannot provide for themselves. If this were a human child, CPS would be involved.

    If my dog went missing for even literally five minutes I would be frantic until I found her again. If I didn’t have $130 in cash I would put it on a credit card, ask for help, take out a damn loan, it wouldn’t matter. Nothing in my life would be a bigger priority until I got her back.

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    Kate
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    I would honestly suck dicks for $130 to get my dog back.

    #847802 Reply
    TheLadyE
    TheLadyE

    @kate, same.

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    ele4phant

    In all honesty, if this were my cat I would move heaven and earth to get the cat back immediately.

    But absent clear evidence to the contrary, just because people don’t behave exactly like me does not mean they don’t care about their animal. They cared enough to show up physically to try to reclaim their animal, so that says they did wish to be reunited with their dog.

    And, as someone whose cat has never slipped away and ended up in a shelter, I was surprised at how short the grace period was. It may be standard, but I bet there are a lot of good decent pet owners out there would also be like, what, only 5 days even if you’ve contacted and are communicating with the owner? And furthermore, I was pretty surprised that they’d show and accept applications for an animal BEFORE it officially became eligible for adoption.

    Not to say you bend the rules for people, but, yeah, but I’m sympathetic that they could be good, caring (or at least adequate) pet owners that failed to interact perfectly with a system they had never encountered before.

    And it sucks that if their rules are that rigid, that they are dragging the OP in at all. It’s basically passing the moral buck on to her to sort this out. I mean, they told her they are “happy with how it turned out”, but they’re still giving her this kinda shitty situation to make peace with. If they were happy with the placement, and they felt they gave the previous owners adequate instruction on what they needed to do and by when, that should just be it.

    #847805 Reply
    bittergaymark
    Bittergaymark

    This thread is depressing. So many fools blase’ly putting the selfish vacuous wants of CLEARLY shitty people over the very real needs of hapless, innocent animals.
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    People fucking suck.
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    Seriously. Maybe we need kill shelters for all the lousy pet owners and the endlessly shitty parents out there. Trust me. Not a one would be missed.
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    Those of you who advise the LW give the dog back truly are naive fools. With far too much misplaced (and baseless) faith in the goodness of mankind.
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    NEWSFLASH: we as a nation are presently putting children in fucking cages. CAGES! And nobody is ACTUALLY doing ANYTHING to stop it. Nobody. Not on the left. Not on the right. Everybody is just using this issue to either get or stay elected.
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    What is ACTUALLY being done.
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    Nothing. Nothing.
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    Why? Mankind fucking sucks.
    Nothing. Nothing.

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    Kate
    Keymaster

    “Only 5 days,” whatttt??!?

    That’s a long time. I would be up all night finding my dog and getting him out of lockup.

    #847814 Reply
    bittergaymark
    Bittergaymark

    Agreed. Five days is seriously CRAZY long.

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