February 28, 2014 at 10:30 am #149421
So, ever since I wrote the essays about my husband and have answered on a few threads about addiction, I have received many emails from people seeking advice, support, etc. Many of them are married to or are dating people who are currently struggling with addiction, have struggled in the past, may or may not be currently using. Some of them are people who were the addict in a relationship and want to me how their relationships worked out (or didn’t) or offer words of encouragement or even just kudos for getting my story out there.
I love these emails. Sometimes they’re long, sometimes they’re short, sometimes I only hear from the person once, sometimes I hear from them frequently. It makes me feel like what I went through was worth it if it could help just one other person or raise any form of awareness, so thank you Wendy, for the opportunity to share my story. I’ve always been a writer and have thought of writing a book about it, but just haven’t been able to get myself there, so this is a great second best.
I’ve been getting these emails starting the first few days after my essay was first posted, but I was prompted to say something now because I’ve received 3 in the last 2 days from various people who saw my response to a question about “My Boyfriend Is A Heroin Addict” and that was a lot for what I normally get (usually I get 2-3 a month). It’s really awesome to feel like I can make a difference.
So again, thanks Wendy and thank you to the rest of DW who were willing to listen to my story (and this rambling post).February 28, 2014 at 10:31 am #149422
Making a difference bumpFebruary 28, 2014 at 10:36 am #149423kerrycontraryGuest
This is awesome! I found your story to be really…enlightening. I always though “I’d divorce someone if they went to jail!”, but you gave a really honest viewpoint of why you decided to stay with your husband and what the both of you are going through.February 28, 2014 at 10:42 am #149426lets_be_honestParticipant
I loved your story. How nice that you take the time to reply to these people. 🙂February 28, 2014 at 10:47 am #149431thatgirlParticipant
Sharing in and of itself is a form of healing. And helping others helps you heal. There are things in my life/marriage that I would never be able to tell, and I admire you for your courage. 🙂February 28, 2014 at 10:49 am #149433FabelleParticipant
That is really nice. I do see that your essay(s) will get comments still from time to time, so those people must google to find. How nice that you respond to them, I’m sure they need a compassionate voice 🙂February 28, 2014 at 10:49 am #149434GatorGirlParticipant
I’ve also loved following your journey. It’s opened up my eyes a lot to addiction and how difficult it can be to be the spouse of an addict. So yeah, kudos to you. And I love seeing all your cutesy posts on FB about your husband now. I’m so happy for you he is home and thriving.February 28, 2014 at 10:51 am #149436bethanyParticipant
I love this!! I also love hearing about everything you’ve gone through, since my good friend is in a similar situation- it helps me relate to her a little better.February 28, 2014 at 12:00 pm #149450
Thanks everyone 🙂
@GG – I’m happy he’s home and thriving too 🙂 We have a ridiculous amount of fun, which we have always done but seems even more important now. He’s thinking of going to school sometime in the near future for something he hasn’t quite decided on, but for right now we’re fighting this fertility battle. Once we get knocked up, I bet DW will know before anyone else because I won’t be able to keep it to myself for long.March 4, 2014 at 8:14 pm #150384Dear WendyKeymaster
Love this, thanks for sharing!