Be very careful. He’s lonely and between girlfriends and is also grieving, and you’re someone who’s been nice to him. You have feelings, he doesn’t. When a guy breaks up with you because something’s missing, he’s not in love with you. You were madly in love, he wasn’t. It’s pretty likely he met the other woman before he broke up with you and she was his exit strategy. If you go for coffee with him, which he’s already telling you will just be as friends, you’re going to have the feelings and he’s going to let you down. This is not fate bringing you two together for another shot. This is just life.

I would honestly not even meet him. If you do, you need to have no expectations and be very determined that you won’t see things that aren’t there. Because they’re not there, I promise you. Definitely don’t hook up with him.

It is silly, and it does basically mean nothing. It means you bumped into an ex who broke your heart and you were both drunk and he was probably shocked you were being pleasant to him. He told you while he was drunk that he only wanted to see you platonically. It doesn’t seem like that’s possible for you- because you are reading into this when it’s pretty clear, even after gushing and reminiscing with you, he pointed out to keep it platonic and you are wanting star here’s thought son 5is interaction, which means you want more.

Don’t willingly walk straight into heartbreak number 2 from this guy. I agree, he is remembering the good times, remembering your kindness in his grief but ultimately the guy left you because something was missing. I doubt that something that was missing is now present.

Those are my thoughts.

Try a new guy, literally almost half the population is men, and straight men are having a harder time dating as relationship standards increase for women. Why go backwards?

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-state-our-unions/202208/the-rise-lonely-single-men

I think this is key though: women “prefer men who are emotionally available, good communicators, and share similar values.” These lonely single guys are single because they’re not bringing much to the table.

But yeah, there ARE emotionally available good communicators out there with similar values to yours. This guy isn’t it.

It does sound like you’re hanging onto hope that this might lead to giving things another go while he’s been clear that you’re a friend. If this guy is already taking up headspace again after a chance encounter, I’d save myself the heartache and not go back for more. I’ve had some chance encounters with men I’ve dated and they’ve been anything from fine to nice. I don’t think I could handle catching up with someone I was madly in love with who broke my heart. Like it actually sounds awful to me, haha. I know everyone’s different, but it’s ok to not go if you think it won’t serve you.

* and they will meet with you in hopes of having sex with you once or twice before vanishing.