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Everyone at school thinks Im a joke and I feel horrible

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    Freya

    Basically, as a joke I put a video singing a mine craft song in a funny voice and it was obviously a joke, but I didn’t think anyone would see. However I came in to school last term to everyone knowing it and seen it and people had put it on their snap chats. Last term I have had a couple of people came up to me, most where nice and clearly saw it was a joke, a few bitchy but not too many people. But now its a new term I didn’t even think about it to be honest. Then I was just waiting in the dinner line and loads of these girls came up to me and they where right chavs from the upper year and started asking me to sing and it wasn’t to many of them and they wouldn’t leave me alone so I sang like a little bit in that stupid voice. But then I was outside in the same lunch break and like at least 20 people came up to me and then my best friend just ditched me. And started asking me to sing and I kept saying no and they didn’t leave, I don’t know what I would of done if the bell didn’t go. I came home and deleted my YouTube channel, but I didn’t know if this would make it worse. I don’t know what to do anymore,I just feel horrible

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    JD

    I’m sorry you’re dealing with mean people. Please remember that anything you post online can be seen by anyone and school aged children are pretty much the worst.

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    Rebecca

    Agree with JD, but also: please don’t call people chavs, it’s just as cruel and dismissive as they’re being to you.

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    keyblade
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    It’s hard for me to understand exactly what happened. Are you embarrassed because so many people from school watched your video or because you felt you were being hassled?

    Did you feel pressured into singing because you felt unsafe or was it so people would just stop talking about it?

    What does “chavs” mean?

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    Northern Star

    Don’t “reward” people who won’t leave you alone by giving them what they want. Ignore them and walk away. Hopefully these jerks have a limited attention span, and if you don’t give them more ammunition, they’ll get bored and move on.

    And now you realize that posting something online that you “don’t think anyone will see” is a bad idea—because they WILL see. Same goes for anything you send privately to a friend, too. If you send it electronically, assume it could be made public. This will save you a lot of grief later on in life.

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    Kate

    I think it would have been better to say something like, “it was a joke. Watch my channel if you want to see it so bad.” And then walked away. I don’t think you needed to delete your channel.

    The news cycle, so to speak, is so fast these days, I would guess that people will be on to something else pretty soon and forget about this. If they don’t, I guess don’t act embarrassed and don’t give in to their demands for you to sing. Just be like, yeah, that was a joke, glad it’s still funny.

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    Kate

    “Chav” is a pejorative epithet used in the United Kingdom to describe a particular stereotype of anti-social youth dressed in sportswear. The word was popularised in the 2000s by the British mass media to refer to an anti-social youth subculture in the UK.

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    You’re being bullied, which is no fun but teenage attention spans being so short, I’m sure they’ll be over it soon enough. If you can handle a little teasing without getting visibly upset, teasing you will no longer give them a thrill and they’ll move on.

    As an aside, why post something online if you think no one will ever see it? What’s the point of posting something you don’t want anyone to see?

    As you said, you posted it as a joke, so don’t take it to heart. Maybe the next time someone approaches you, have an even funnier video on YouTube (not yours, of course) ready to show them.

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    Kate

    You know you guys can look up the meaning of any term online…

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    keyblade
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    The Oxford English Dictionary defines “chav” as an informal British derogatory, meaning “a young lower-class person who displays brash and loutish behaviour and wears real or imitation designer clothes”.

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    Freya

    I posted it thinking only my friends would see it. Also I’m from England and saying ‘chav’ and other language like that is just how we speak depending on where you are from. But chav basically means someone who is common and they all look like each other cause they wear all the same clothes and all have massive eyebrows.

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    JD

    Maybe be nicer and not judge someone on their clothes and eyebrows. Guess what, every teenager dresses the same pretty much in every country. People can just like the same thing. Your attitude likely isn’t helping how these people treat you.

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