Who is paying for this home? That’s the part that I’d be concerned about. And if he can’t pay for his own home, then he shouldn’t be spending money on a diamond. But yeah, until either of you has proposed, and the other has agreed, then this is all fantasy.
I’m not saying that he has to pay more than you – I’m saying he has to be able to pay his half. And with four kids – does that mean a 5 bedroom house? Or a three bedrooms and his kids continue sleeping in the living room? Or three bedrooms and each pair of kids share a room?