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feelin insecure.. help:(

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    Logan

    This friend obviously likes you for not being like her other friends, that’s what draws you to her. If you keep this up you will become that annoying friend that she no longer wants to chill with. You are not going to be able to help her with every single problem that comes her way, all you can do is tell you are there for her whenever she needs someone to talk to or a shoulder to cry on. If you keep up this obsessed and infatuated behavior? you will defiantly lose this friend.

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    LisforLeslie

    Not trying to pile on here but you can’t be everything to anyone. Not a friend, not a family member not even a romantic partner. You as a person, can’t make someone else happy. You can’t take away their pain. You can bring happiness into their life, you can distract them from the pain they may have.

    Understanding and accepting this will help.

    Also, people like you for what you bring to the relationship. If all you bring is your insecurities and require them to continually repeat they want to have you as a friend and comfort you – that’s exhausting. Spending time convincing you that you are worth their time – will not make them value their time with you. I don’t know if that’s what’s happening – but man, it is exhausting. It’s exhausting on both sides.

    But yeah, you do sound a but obsessed like either you want to be this person, you want to be with this person or you want to kill and consume this person and absorb their power.

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