Why would you want to invite a person to a wedding, let alone date someone when they can’t commit to a virtual date, or make you feel like you need to limit your contact with them?

Sorry, this one is a dud. MOA and find someone who is just as interested in you who is willing to put the time and effort (which at this point for a virtual date is pretty minimal), and doesn’t make you paranoid with messaging.

Oh! Well someone told me to ask her closer to the wedding! Here’s to being preposterous

She shut down a video chat, which is a low effort way to at least see if there is attraction. Does she ever text you first? Has she ever broached the subject of dating you? When you text her does she text back and keep the conversation going?

You don’t want to be told to give up. I’m not sure why you wrote in if you don’t want honest advice, but, ok. Go ahead and ask her now. The chances she’ll say yes are very, very small. And when she says no (or maybe or I don’t know which are all soft ways to say no) I hope you’ll move on and start investing your time into other people and opportunities. If this is a pattern – investing in people who aren’t investing back in you, continuing to want a relationship after the other person has given signals they don’t, not wanting to hear/face uncomfortable truths- it would be worth talking to a counselor about these issues. Therapy can help immensely and you’ll come out a much happier person. And self confident, happy people attract other great people to them.