You could ask – but she will most certainly say no.

Someone who won’t even commit to a virtual chat with you is definitely not going to be interested in an in-person date, much less one as high pressure as being a wedding date.

I think you think persistence will win her over, it will not.

She has been trying to give you a soft “I’m not interested.” If you keep pursing her, she’ll eventually be forced to be more explicit.

Just read the writing on the wall, acknowledge she’s not interested, stop contacting her, and get back on tinder and look for new matches.

I don’t mean this dismissively, but yeah, chatting with someone might not be a bad idea. Therapy is amazing, it’s not just for people with dire mental health issues, we can all benefit from a neutral, trained party listening to our problems and helping us talk them through.

If you find you struggle in dating and you struggle with soft social cues, yeah, a few sessions to talk it over with someone might be really useful.

It definitely doesn’t sound absurd or profound. We get that you like her. But I mean, you’ve been talking to her for how long? And you don’t know what to text her? And it’s a newsworthy thing if she responds to one of your texts… It doesn’t sound like you two are compatible.

Does she live in a part of the country that’s freezing cold or having out-of-the ordinary weather? You could ask about that.

BGM — Don’t give the guy ideas. Now he going to non-profoundly and non-absurdly propose to her over the internet so they can attend the wedding as an engaged couple. It will be an historic first in-person date, but not in an absurd or profound way.