First date ghosting!
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I went a first date with this guy I met online. It went well I thought. At the end he kissed me a few times as we chatted and said bye. He suggested that we meet again next week. Anyway the next morning I messaged saying thanks for driving an hour to come meet me and hope he enjoyed the bar! Anyway… he just never replied! What the hell! Why did he kiss me! Why did he suggest meeting again? We are in our 30z… he could easily have replied and said… upon reflection I don’t think we should meet again… isn’t that just basic human decency?
Because in the moment, it was easier for him to do that than be honest, or maybe he changed his mind later. A lot of people ghost, try not to take it personally. I know it feels personal.
Guys will say a lot, and will often try to get some regardless of whether they want to date you or not. In all honesty, it’s probably best he ghosted you, so that now you see that he’s the type of guy who’ll take you on a date, act really into you and then ghost you. You should let him go and move onto the next. I’m sorry.
I once had a guy ask me to be exclusive and then I never heard from him again. (LOL.) Ghosting was my least favorite part of dating. In a perfect world, everyone would have the emotional maturity to send a text if they’re not into it or changed their mind, but the reality is, that’s not what happens. It sounds like he probably liked you as much as he knew you and had a good time on the first date, so he kissed you and suggested meeting again, but has since changed his mind… and there could be a million reasons why. For one thing, it sounds like it’s a bit of a drive to get together. I don’t think speculating why is too helpful, though I understand your frustration. I got ghosted a bit while I was dating. Remind yourself you want someone who can communicate what he’s feeling if it’s getting you down, and onto the next!
