September 16, 2020 at 7:00 am #962203WoodwardGuest
Am I being a bitch for not accepting that my flatmate (M, 25) leaves his dirty dishes and dirty kitchen stations before going on vacations?
I feel like he thinks it’s ok since he offers me and my boyfriend gifts (from previous vacay) and he is also a very easy going person, helps me out, accepts that my bf comes very often, etc.
But cleaning your mess is a basic thing right??September 16, 2020 at 7:05 am #962204FyodorGuest
Have you spoken to him about this?September 16, 2020 at 7:17 am #962205WoodwardGuest
I didn’t speak with him about it because I don’t want to create tension. He is a sensitive guy and he would take this as a threat. he usually takes longer than me to do his dishes but this is the 2nd or 3rd time he leaves his stuff before going on vacation, I think he genuinely forgot but it triggers my fussinessSeptember 16, 2020 at 7:21 am #962206KateKeymaster
So how are you being a bitch if you haven’t brought it up?September 16, 2020 at 8:00 am #962210OracleGuest
There are no perfect roommates. You are doing things that might drive another roommate crazy. Having you boyfriend over “often” is one of them. You think he forgot. OK, just do the dishes.September 16, 2020 at 8:03 am #962211anonymousseParticipant
Ask him to wash he dishes after he uses them. That’s not a threat. That’s not offensive, it’s basic respect.September 16, 2020 at 8:21 am #962214FyodorGuest
You need to have some ability to discuss concerns and complaints with your roommates. It’s a fundamental part of being roommates or really any kind of human relationship.September 16, 2020 at 10:58 am #962217BittergaymarkGuest
Yeah. Gently reminding somebody NOT to leave dirty dishes behind when they go on vacation is simply in no way being bitchy.
Speak up.September 16, 2020 at 11:08 am #962218anonymousseParticipant
“Hey, Joe- could you please wash the dishes after you use them? The last four times you’ve left for the weekend you’ve left me a sink of dishes. I know you probably just forgot.”September 16, 2020 at 6:06 pm #962239HazelParticipant
aye I think it’s fine to say something. Unless they are cutting you major slack in another direction this does seem a bit oafish- point it out now before it becomes more of a thing, and goes all festery (like the dishes)