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- September 11, 2019 at 2:39 pm #852096sally123Member
Yes we spoke about this I did say to him it wasn’t normal as he is young and suggested doctor he said he would look into it and didn’t. As far as getting IUD I had one and it didn’t work I was worse I can’t use pill so I have just suffered my mother was the same and had this procedure done . I will have a chat with him again and see if something can be sorted suggest councilling I am very happy with my kids and i know i am blessed but I suppose it’s because I won’t have a choice anymore. Thanks every one for your help.September 11, 2019 at 3:42 pm #852098BittergaymarkGuest
You already have kids. You don’t need to pop out another litter with the next guy you wind up with.September 11, 2019 at 4:03 pm #852100RangerchicParticipant
I had an ablation done as well (it didn’t completely work for me…my periods are lighter but I still have them). But even though I was and am certain I never want more children (i’m 43) it was weird to have the choice taken away (even though each passing day gets me a little closer to having mother nature take it away). So I understand those feelings. It only took a few days though to have it not really bother me anymore. And it’s been almost a year, I don’t think about it at all.September 11, 2019 at 4:23 pm #852102ronGuest
It’s time to MOA.September 11, 2019 at 4:25 pm #852103sally123Member
Thanks rangerchic that makes me feel better and bittergaymark you have a way with words so delightfulSeptember 12, 2019 at 7:33 am #852125CETGuest
You need to push this no sex issue with him…really talk about how you cannot live this way and you feel unwanted and you have a sex drive and want to have regular sex. Tell him the marriage is not working for you and he needs to 1. speak to his doctor about his low sex drive and get some testing done 2. go to marriage therapy with you and 3. work on changing and start having sex with you. You see, LW, you may be married to a selfish person who does not feel any need to change because he is getting all he wants from the marriage. If he doesn’t do the work to change in order for you BOTH to be happy then it means he is not willing to compromise and honestly, that is not much of a marriage. — As for the procedure and having more kids…you have kids already. Do you want more kids? Can you not just focus on the kids you do have? If it were me I would get the procedure done and focus on the kids I already have.