Friend ditched us at a Halloween party to hook up with abusive ex

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    November 2, 2022 at 10:16 am #1116738

    Thanks for clarifying, LW. I’ll take your word for it that you’ve expressed your concern/frustration with your friend’s behavior in a more compassionate way in the past. And if you’ve done that, I don’t think there’s anything else you can or should do. She gets to decide who she dates — that really doesn’t affect you. You can’t force her into therapy. If you don’t like how she behaves or who she is becoming, you can distance yourself.

    And yes, it’s probably worthwhile to reflect a bit on your own behavior, though I know it’s not why you wrote in. I can remember some of the drama in my friend group at your age, so can vaguely relate. I could not relate at all to how you chose to speak to (or even about) your friend.

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    November 2, 2022 at 10:44 am #1116739

    I mean I have to say, you’re at a party, 40 minutes from home, underage taking Molly and drinking and waiting for her to take you back to her home…you guys chose to go spend the time with her and have known she behaves like this. You were all being reckless. I’m not judging, I’ve been there. BUT you need to own the choices you make, the situation you put yourself into and stop calling her a stupid bitch and other horrible names. I read more of your post, not all but lord. She’s a teenager. If you hate her so much, stop spending time with her but you really shouldn’t be so mean to your friends. The name calling! You’re verbally abusive, if this is how you speak to her all the time.

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