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- July 26, 2020 at 10:49 pm #906898GiftGuest
4 years ago I was really close to a person and it was really obvious that person liked me, but the moment I’ve began to like him, I started acting in an awkward and distant way. So we became like complete strangers… I thought that I’ve moved on because it’s been already 4 years but I surely still like him and wanna be as close as we were before. What do you think? And does anyone know how can I do that, knowing that we haven’t talked like normal people for ages :cc
PS: i don’t wanna move on. I wanna start talking to him again without looking weird.July 26, 2020 at 11:36 pm #906943bloodymediocrityParticipant
You have the blessing of a pandemic happening right now. It’s totally normal for people to check up on those they haven’t seen in a long time. You’re not totally clear if you want to pursue a relationship with him, or just check in as friends. Assuming it’s in the latter, there’s not much to it: Just ask how he’s been, what he’s been up to. If he’s interested in being friends he will chat with you, there’s no need to overthink it. If he’s not, the conversation will die quickly or he won’t respond.
If you’re looking to be more than friends (and assuming he’s actually available) it’s pretty much the same, though you might have to be honest with him about why you disconnected previously.
Either way, there’s no need to worry about looking weird. It’s not a thing. Just talk. I say this as an incredibly awkward introvert who gets pretty serious anxiety when it comes to starting conversations, so I get where you’re coming from. But it’s all an illusion that we create in our minds. The only way through that anxiety is to completely ignore it and say what you want to say.July 27, 2020 at 11:20 am #907664anonymousseParticipant
Stop worrying about being weird. Just reach out and ask how he is. Don’t overthink it.July 28, 2020 at 11:08 pm #910461GiftGuest
Thank you guys! I’ve just discovered thanks to you that many people do the same without feeling awkward, but I also realized that my case is a little bit different, I usually meet that friend whom I wanna talk to outside, but we never talked even though we noticed each other, so I thought changing my behavior suddenly after 4 years may seem weird