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Getting over cheating-based resentment

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    Tiara

    When I got cheated on suprisingly the last thing on my mind was to get checked, thanks to a friend suggesting it I did and it saved me a lot of trouble in the long run. Because I got to it early it was a one pill fix, had I not it could of ruined me being able to have children. I think you are taking the advice too personally, it’s true we dont know all of her situation but it never hurts to remind someone of it.

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    Tiara

    Also, a condom wont protect you from every STD. Herpes for instance.

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    Kate
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    I’m not taking it personally, but I do find it condescending to women when people stridently tell them to “get tested,” “get your tubes tied,” “get an abortion,” etc. Our bodies, our business.

    Now, Tiara, if you were to offer a heartfelt post of advice from a place of having been cheated on, and you mentioned that it had been helpful to you to have a friend suggest you get tested, that doesn’t come off patronizing or judgmental. Jumping onto a thread simply to bark “get tested” does.

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    LisforLeslie

    @kate – I always interpreted the “get tested” advice as “He’s not trust worthy and he’s potentially putting your health at risk.”

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