Couldn’t you DM her on IG and ask if she’s okay? And that you miss talking to her, are sorry for the momentary lapse in judgment when you kept calling her, you realize that crossed a line, but are in a better place now and hope she’s doing well too.

But I mean, big picture, this girl isn’t interested in you. She was up-front with you that she saw you as a friend. When you pushed it too much, she blocked you.

Why would she not be okay? “Needing to know that she’s okay” reads like an excuse to reach out to someone who has made clear by blocking you that they don’t want or need to be in contact with you all that often. Any “making sure she’s okay” seems like it’s for your benefit, not hers.

Odds are, she has not noticed you deleted her from FB. And if she has, I doubt she cares since she’s blocked you from contacting her on multiple platforms. She may even be relieved.

If you’re following one another on Instagram, her viewing your stories means nothing. You know once you start watching stories, it’ll just continue playing the next user’s stories, right? The odds that she’s going to your profile and watching your weight loss/fitness stories that way are *incredibly* low. I tap through boring-to-me stories from friends and acquaintances on Instagram ALL the time.

If you find yourself being this consumed by social media, it may be good to take a bit of a hiatus. Social media isn’t real life.

Lastly, you don’t seem to want to accept that this woman just wants to be your friend, otherwise you wouldn’t be qualifying it every time with “at the moment.”

I’d not reach out to this woman since nothing she’s doing is indicating that she misses your presence in her life. There’s a lot of context missing, but you sound clingy and a bit obsessed with her.

• This reply was modified 2 weeks ago by Copa.

When I said you weren’t supportive to her mental health journey, I meant you weren’t respecting normal boundaries and were being a pain in her butt. You called so much she had to block you.

Also, yeah, this doesn’t come off well:

“I was supportive I was up with her until 7 in the morning when she was struggling to sleep and offered to get a taxi so I can be there so she know someone is there if she needed help. That was before she told me about just as a friend at the moment.”

That sounds like you were hoping to hook up, honestly. You offered to get a taxi and come over in the middle of the night, before you knew she friendzoned you. Women can see through that. And now you need to know if she’s ok, and you do have a way to contact her, but you’re just going to wait?

Copa is right about stories too. Do you only watch the stories of people you’re romantically interested in? Or do you blow through a lot of people’s stories quickly and slow down if you see something a little more interesting?

Yeah. Don’t make any contact unless it is an apology (and ONLY an apology) for overstepping boundaries, and if you do that, expect to not receive a response. Do this, and understand going forward that she’s not into you and it ain’t happening.

I agree with Kate – your offer to “come over in the middle of the night” because “she can’t sleep” was probably read with sexual intentions that she wasn’t interested in reciprocating.