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    SpaceySteph
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    I have always been a wash and wear girl, but I think my hair has changed post-partum to where its a lot frizzier and less cooperative and I feel like its keeping me from looking as polished/professional as I want to look (especially as a working mom, I don’t want to look like a hot mess every day because I know I’m being judged more than a non-mom on whether I seem to be keeping it together).

    I don’t want to spend a lot of time on it, and I HATE blowdryers (hot, noisy, ugh). So what products do you use and like, especially for controlling frizz but generally for making your hair not look a mess? I went to the grocery and stood in the haircare aisle for what felt like 1000 years and there were so many options and I didn’t know what to get.

    #741982 Reply
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    SpaceySteph
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    Frizzy mess bump!

    #741984 Reply
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    Kate
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    Any product with silicone in it (look for ingredients that end in “cone”), like Frizz-Eze air dry waves or their serum, will smooth out your hair, but they’re essentially coating it in plastic, which seals out moisture and over time will make your hair dull and brittle. So if you use these products, which work, you need to use a clarifying shampoo at least every week or two.

    Don’t wash every day – try to make a wash last at least two, three days.

    Use a mask or deep conditioner AS your conditioner. Every week or so, leave it on for 20+ minutes while you do other stuff. Watch out for “cones” in your conditioner too.

    I love Oribe styling products and masks because they don’t have silicones, but they are expensive. Several come in trial sizes though. I use Supershine Moisture Cream as a leave-in, some Gold Lust Oil in the ends, and their Gold Lust Restorative Mask is my holy grail.

    Finally, this blow-dryer is super easy, fast, and one step. It won’t make you sweat either.

    https://www.target.com/p/revlon-174-oval-one-step-hair-dryer-volumizing-styler/-/A-50854658?ref=tgt_adv_XS000000&AFID=google_pla_df&CPNG=PLA_Health+Beauty+Shopping&adgroup=SC_Health+Beauty&LID=700000001170770pgs&network=g&device=m&location=9002059&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIzLOHqKTY2QIVwVqGCh3yGAk7EAQYASABEgLcEfD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

    #741986 Reply
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    LisforLeslie

    I have fallen in love love love with Bumble and Bumble Don’t Blow It for fine hair.

    I have super fine hair. I can put all of my hair in a little band made for tiny braids. It’s wavy/curly and when I am in Florida I can end up with a halo of frizz. This stuff is great. I have also been using Ganier Fructise Curl Spray which is a lot stiffer, but cheaper and keeps the frizz down.

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    Kate
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    Oh and use a sulfate-free (no harsh detergent) as your main shampoo. Your clarifying shampoo will have sulfates, but I avoid using sulfate shampoo because it’s drying. The one I use is Wella Elements, but my hair may be different from yours. If yours is really thick, you may want something more, like, creamy and thick, while I like a lighter, clearer formulation that won’t weigh my hair down.

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    Kate
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    Echoing Leslie that Garnier products majorly cut down on frizz, but you need a clarifying shampoo regularly because the products do have a lot of silicone and will build up.

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    Kate
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    And if all else fails, try a keratin treatment each summer.

    #741994 Reply
    Copa
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    I don’t have a specific product to recommend, but really like Kerastase products in general. I’m sure they sell something for frizz and you can check the ingredients to see if there are any harsh chemicals you’d like to avoid.

    Is your hair frizzy and straight? Frizzy and curly? If the latter, my sister — who has curly, frizzy hair — really likes one brand for curls that I can ask her about and report back. It’s pricier, but I notice a world of difference in her naturally-dried curls when she uses it.

    My hair isn’t overly frizzy (it can be), but it doesn’t have a very nice natural texture. It’s I think kinda coarse, not super straight, thick, etc. When I let it air dry, I dry it in braids and that helps me get a nicer natural wave. Finding the right air drying technique may be all you need!

    #741996 Reply
    Copa
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    Unrelated, but I think it’s super interesting how hair texture/quality can change. My hair was light brown/dark blonde and super thin and pin straight until I hit puberty, when it got significantly darker, thicker, and courser. In college, it got noticeably wavier (coincided with taking Accutane and not sure if that had anything to do with it). I had a hair stylist who told me hair changes every seven years. Not sure if that’s accurate, but my hair has definitely changed over the years.

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    Kate
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    Yeah, when you air dry, ideally you want to arrange your hair, when still damp, into the way you want it to dry. For me, that can be two loose French braids. For other people it can be twists… either you twist pieces of hair while they dry, or make two big twists and clip them up overnight. Some people can probably part their hair, scrunch product in, and go.

    #742006 Reply
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    SpaceySteph
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    @Copa- its curly. I would love to know what your sister uses!

    Honestly I would be happy to splurge on something that would tame this mess without me having to blow dry and straighten my hair every day. Its also really thin so when I straighten I feel like I have hardly any hair. And I have kind of a chubby face so I need the hair to balance it out.

    I always look at those hairdryer brush things and wonder about them. I should give it a try! All in one is totally my jam. I do use Garnier whole blends shampoo and conditioner– just started recently, not sure how i feel.

    And yeah, I used to use the frizz-eze serum but it gave my hair a weird texture. You’re right, Kate, it was very plasticky.

    #742008 Reply
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    SpaceySteph
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    Also now I gotta go home and look at if my usual shampoo has sulfates!

    I feel like nobody taught me how to do all these woman things like hair and makeup. Can you believe a Sephora employee taught me how to apply eyeliner at 25 so I could do my own makeup for my wedding? My mom wasn’t into this stuff, which is cool, but also she was mostly a SAHM (sometimes did the books for my dad’s office from home) so she didn’t have to worry about looking professional on a daily basis.

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