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  • Mae
    November 26, 2023 at 9:40 am #1126828

    I was walking home and two girls were passing by me. The girls were about 16-17, looked so not trustworthy and were listening to loud music. It was already dark and I got a really bad feeling. They were passing by me but hovering a little bit to be right next to me. Then I could feel some touch on my backpack. I turned around and looked at one of them and she smiled and said “not me”. And then I looked at the other one and that one had the same cheeky smile on her face. I stoped and let them go in front of me. But this experience showed me that I do not know what to respond or what to say in situations like this. What sentences or behaviour I should have?

    November 26, 2023 at 3:19 pm #1126839

    They don’t hurt you or say anything unkind or steal from you, right? This doesn’t feel like harassment really, but it sounds like they were up to something. In general I would say trust your gut, if you see people ahead of you who look shady, avoid them and walk the other way. I’ve had bad experiences where I didn’t do that and should have. If someone speaks to you, you are usually best to just keep going. In this case I think you did the right thing. An assertive “can I help you,” is maybe the only thing you could have said. But really, best not to engage.

    November 28, 2023 at 10:29 am #1126878

    You should talk to someone who is street smart in your area, and to your parent or guardian. It doesn’t sound like yo7 feel safe walking alone at night, and maybe you shouldn’t be.

    Usually, you can pretty easily cross a street or step away to avoid being near other people if you don’t want to walk near them. I would walk in well lit areas only. When I was young living in a city, I projected an aura of “Do not even try me,” and walked confidently and briskly to each destination. I don’t think this is harassment, you’re not even sure if they touched you or who they are. If you don’t feel safe alone at night, try to walk with someone else or don’t go out at night alone. You do sound very young. Be careful.

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