Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Have you ever gotten back together with an ex?

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    Fyodor
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    It’s generally my experience that long distance relationships often create a sense of fake investment that lacks any real foundation based on regular time together (a more extreme example is these mostly online “relationships”)
    So if feels like a really substantial relationship but you spent about as much time together as a couple that dated for a few weeks.

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    dinoceros
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    You’re not going to be able to solve the problem of him not wanting to talk to you and presumably the long-distance will continue, so this isn’t a situation where getting back together would make since. There’s not evidence it’s even an option right now.

    Don’t focus so much on whether he wants to be with you or not. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn’t want to spend time with you?

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    Kate
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    What everyone else said, and it sounds very much to me like he has a girlfriend and you were a side thing. Like, very suspiciously much.

    #847249 Reply

    Wait, let me do the math here.

    You broke up with your boyfriend of 8 months … but you hadn’t seen each other for 6 months.

    That means you had 2 months of a relationship, which may or may not have been a long-distance relationship. (I can’t tell if the LDR was the whole time, or just those last 6 months)

    I’m going to go out on a limb and say that you ACTUALLY broke up 6-months ago, you just didn’t know it yet. What Fyodor said about putting more weight into the LDR time holds true. You barely had a relationship with this person. I wouldn’t think twice about wanting to be together. Leave this sinking ship behind.

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