My boyfriends sister has told me she was raped and could be pregnant. I Told her to immediately tell her family but I don’t know what to do because I feel so horrible keeping a huge secret from him. He also has been sexually assaulted and I know this will break his heart. I am encouraging her to tell him and her family but I don’t think I should get involved. I feel horrible for her. I need advice on what to do. Should I just stay out of it and try to help her?
What Kate said. She needs to talk to professionals. You aren’t qualified to give her all the advice. Also, I wouldn’t tell other people on her behalf. That’s incredibly hurtful to take away someone’s power to decide who to tell and what to tell them.
Also, police is not the best place to go first. Police aren’t always helpful, and in the case that she doesn’t want to pursue criminal charges, then they aren’t of much use. There are plenty of professionals that work on hotlines or centers that can help her decide what to do next.