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help! should i marry a guy who has kids?!

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    bittergaymarkBittergaymark
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    I wish I could say Indigo’s views on stepchildren surprised me. But they don’t.

    And I don’t mean that as an attack on Indigo either. It’s just that this precise, warped view has often been the subtext of many a step parenting or dating person with kids question… Many people are great step parents. But many are not.

    #873190
    avatarHelen
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    3 people other than BGM said indigo’s views were abhorrent, but indigo only attacks him. Over the homophobia. Its fucking 2020. We should be past this shit. Purposefully referring to indigo in the 3rd person because my head would explode if I had a direct conversation with this person

    #873192
    avatarIndigo
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    Also not saying it’s impossible for a man to love a child that’s not their own. What I’m saying is what I have REPEATEDLY READ verbatim from stepparents.

    I think it’s a nice idea and it’s possible in some cases but in other cases, especially if the child is problematic to the point of making a stepparent question their quality of life, that love probably won’t develop.

    #873233
    avatarLisforLeslie
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    @BGM – true true true. My stepmother was pretty good overall and most of the time was a better parent than my dad. However, my stepdad always referred to me as a daughter my stepmother never did. Once, after being my stepmother for 20+ years I was telling her something to which she didn’t like I guess and said “It’s a good think you’re not my daughter.”

    Oooh that cut me to the quick; I was an adult by then and it still stung.

    #873246
    avatarPDX816
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    Indigo – the man I am seeing and I just had this conversation today about trying to find ways to facilitate a healthy relationship with his daughters and I. Your views of children and step parents is really disturbing and quite frankly your words are vile. You seem to really like making shocking statements then pitting yourself against people who call you out. It’s really hard to take you seriously and you pull focus from people trying to help. Be better in life.

    #873247
    avatarAnge
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    Lol I read that as ‘be better at life’ and honestly that’s solid advice

    #873251
    avatarPDX816
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    Ange – that would work also

    #873253
    avatarKate
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    She’s banned. She was yelling “cunt” this and “gay” that, and I couldn’t keep up with it today.

    #873254
    avatarPDX816
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    Kate – Probably for the best, it’s not impossible to disagree and still be respectful.

    #873255
    avatarPDX816
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    LW – Please hold out for someone you know you love and whose views on children are more compatible with yours. You will save yourself so much heartache

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