October 10, 2021 at 9:21 am #1098896Riyo CortesGuest
My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 months nearly till one and a half year he supported me in my studies and my career plans but after that he said he wants a housewife as his partner, he said he has no issues with women working but personally he wants a housewife and once he even said to me that women’s job is not to seek career their job is to support, nurture and nourish. Then after some ongoing fights in the previous months he said to me that ok pursue ur dreams and am with you but now after some weeks he’s again like women’s job is not this and women who want to be housewives are better than women who want to work and all this he send to me from an Instagram page.
Inspite of knowing how adamant I am about my career and I want to achieve my dreams he’s asking me if I fit in this then it’s ok otherwise we end because he doesn’t want a working woman as his life partner.
But I love him a lot and I can’t just leave him and I can’t be compromising on my career as well after years of studies and hard work as well.October 10, 2021 at 10:40 am #1098898KateGuest
Wait a second, have you ever met this guy in person, or do you just talk online??
What are you asking (for the second time now)? How to change his mind about working women? How to be okay with his mindset about working women?
Unfortunately you’re fundamentally incompatible. You can love someone and at the same time be fundamentally incompatible. But you can’t have a fulfilling life together or be happy, and eventually it’s all going to fall completely apart.
Not only that, but he’s telling you loud and clear you have no future with him. He will not want to be with you unless you abandon your whole life plan for him.
Dump him and move on already, that’s literally your only option.October 10, 2021 at 11:37 am #1098899bloodymediocrityParticipant
“I don’t want you to pursue your dreams” should be a hard, fast deal-breaker on it’s own. “I don’t want you to pursue your dreams so you can take care of my home” is so much worse than that. You’re wasting your time here, LW.October 10, 2021 at 11:55 am #1098900anonymousseParticipant
Your boyfriend is sexist. Do you really love him?
Break up with him and pursue YOUR dreams. Cleaning up after a sexist pig is not going to lead to a lifetime of happiness, despite what you may think.October 10, 2021 at 12:10 pm #1098903Riyo CortesGuest
Not not online we met in person and have been meeting in person.October 10, 2021 at 12:23 pm #1098905anonymousseParticipant
You can just leave him and I really hope you do. Self respect, and having it for yourself is worth the temporary regret of losing a bed partner.
He doesn’t love you- he wants a servant.
He doesn’t support your goals or dreams because he believe women are lesser beings, made by design to serve men. Do you think so low of yourself?
Leave him. You could literally find an inanimate object that is more supportive than he is.October 10, 2021 at 12:45 pm #1098906KateKeymaster
You have to understand that by telling you these things – on Instagram no less! – he is telling you he doesn’t give a shit what you think, and isn’t afraid to lose you. He’s basically telling you to leave. He wants you to be the one to do it. He has no respect for you. He’s a bad guy. Truly. Just end it.October 10, 2021 at 1:33 pm #1098907Riyo CortesGuest
No he isn’t telling me on Instagram he sent me posts of some ig page which wrote that women who want to be housewives are better than women who want to work.October 10, 2021 at 1:49 pm #1098908GraciaGuest
You should understand his feelings too ,as you love him you should share your thoughts and discuss everything what you feel about both of you.He is a good person I guess ,he is just being possessive or protective , you should give him a chance as you love him and try to talk to him clearly about this.
Just be honest with him . “Remember you are a girl , and girl’s work is to manage the household”. Are you asian?October 10, 2021 at 1:55 pm #1098909bloodymediocrityParticipant
“He is a good person I guess, he is just being possessive”
Nothing written here suggests the boyfriend is a good person. Good boyfriends aren’t possessive. Being “protective” is not a good thing in this way.
What’s left to for the LW to understand? He’s made his feeling very well known.October 10, 2021 at 1:56 pm #1098910Riyo CortesGuest
Yeah am an asian Gracia.October 10, 2021 at 2:04 pm #1098911KateKeymaster
Um really, you’re making up fake commenters now to support your boyfriend’s bullshit? Because what, you believe it?