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LilyFebruary 18, 2023 at 5:23 pm #1118734
I’m 29 f. I’ve started to a new job about 3 weeks ago in a call center. We are a group of 10 in the training class. 2 girls and the rest is guys.
They are all friendly. We always chat as groups or individually.
Now my problem or question is,
I always try hard to be professional for not being included into romantic stuffs at work. But for some reason I really like a guy of the group of us.
Now my question is what should I do? Because I don’t want to harm my career. I don’t want to be included into something that can hurt me too emotionally.
Sometimes I do try to keep myself away from him. But I kind of feel that we have a chemistry in the air when we are close etc.
Sometimes I think he might like me too. But I really would like to understand more clearly if I’m reading the signs right or wrong.
how do you think could I understand if he likes me too?
I think there’s a few things to consider here.
1) How long is this training class?
2) After the training class, will you be in the same department? Same building? Will you see him regularly or will he be somewhere else?
If you’re not working closely together after the training class, you might as well get to know him better and gauge his interest from there. If you’ll be working closely together after the training class, I’d take it real slow.AnonymousseFebruary 18, 2023 at 11:37 pm #1118736
If you don’t want to be hurt emotionally or hurt your career, you need to focus on the this training class and less on this guy you just met. Are you there for the job or for dating prospects?
How much time have you actually spent talking to him?
Will you be working together?
I wouldn’t. It’s not a good look and people can get the wrong idea. Stick to dating out of work.
If a man had written this, everyone would be reminding him that women do not go to work to find dates. You can assume the same here.
Workplace romances do happen and I’ve seen a couple end in marriage. I also have one friend whose short-lived work relationship ended so poorly that her ex left the company as a direct result. Focus on work. Proceed with caution if at all. You can get to know the guy as a person before you think about dating him. Download a dating app if you’re interested in meeting someone.
Bingo, get to know him. People should not be cold asking each other out at work. Work is not the dating pool. Friends of friends, apps, parties, church, and other social events are the dating pool. If you got to be friends with someone at work who’s not in the same chain of command as you, and you are hanging out outside of work and you both develop feelings, then there might be a way to have a relationship without messing with your career. But you should not be having the expectation that some guy in your training class is a romantic prospect in any way. Just don’t go there. It doesn’t matter if he “likes” you at this point.AnonymousseFebruary 19, 2023 at 3:39 pm #1118741
I met my husband through work. It’s true. I still don’t ever think it’s a good idea unless you are very careful and know the company and coworkers and the culture well. You do not. You just started there.
I had worked for my company for probably 3 years before I met him. He was actually one of my superiors. I liked him for afar. I kept it to myself, but my friends could tell how I felt.
I didn’t make a move until he’d moved to a different city, I couldn’t stop thinking about him and transferred to another location in the same city and company. I called or texted him and asked if he’d show me around the city. That’s when I made the moves. We started dating on the down low for awhile until we knew it was real.
Do not cold ask him out or be flirting with coworkers right out of the gate. It’s not the time nor place.