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How Long Before You Say I Love You?

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    Pamplemousse Rose
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    Miss Dre, I met my husband online and we didn’t kiss on the first date either. I don’t think that is so uncommon with online dating. After our second date, as we were saying goodbye, he kissed me – though it happened so quickly I didn’t quite realize what was going on until it was over! So for our thrid date, I was prepared for it and made sure it was a good kiss 🙂

    As for I love yous, we waited until about 5 months. I had been wanting to say it for a while, but kinda wanted him to say it first*. Until I just felt like I had to say it, so I did.

    *a while before I said it, we had been talking about how I’m a mosquito magnet (seriously if there is one little mosquito around, I’m the person she is going to bite) and he said “Mosquitos love Pamplemousse Rose, and so do I” but that didn’t quite count.

    #334754 Reply
    MissD
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    LOL about the mosquitos haha. That’s kind of cute.

    Yeah, I think I’d be fine with it if he wanted to kiss me on the second date. I wouldn’t say sparks were flying but I like him enough that I want to see him again (he’s already asked me out for a second date). I think it’s important to kiss someone to see if you click. I have NEVER in my life initiated a kiss though, haha. I guess we’ll see what happens!

    #334755 Reply
    othy
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    Othello said it really quickly, about 2 months in. I really wasn’t ready yet. I waited a few more months before I said it back. As far as kissing? We we young, dumb kids and hadn’t kissed anyone before, so we ‘dated’ a whole month before he finally kissed me. On prom night, because we’re romantic and shit.

    #334757 Reply
    honeybeenicki
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    A followup question based on Moneypenny’s idea that it takes time to get to know someone… Is it different if its someone you knew before you started dating? Friend/fairly close acquaintance because you already *know* them?

    #334758 Reply
    Steph
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    With my current boyfriend we kissed on the second date. Our first date was 6 hours though and the best date I’ve ever been on. We’ve been together for about 2 1/2 months and I could have said I love you after about 6 weeks but I haven’t said it yet. I FEEL like he loves me. His actions show that he does as well, even though it’s early on. I’m starting to feel like I want to blurt it out all the time so I’m sure it will be said soon.

    #334759 Reply
    Portia
    Participant

    I’d say with Bassanio, I felt it at about 3-4 months, but actually said it at 6 months when we both said it. I guess he was waiting for me to say it first because of some things I’d mentioned early on. Those hesitations were mostly because of my first boyfriend, who basically whined his way into getting me to say it.

    Oh, and the first kiss was between dates 1 and 2. We’d been friends for about a year, so I think there was some awkwardness at the very beginning of transitioning between the two relationship types.

    #334761 Reply
    Lianne
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    We said it on the same day, about 3 months in. He had just met my parents for the first time and I was telling him that it was a big deal because I hadn’t introduced anyone to my parents in 10 years – and I think it freaked him out a bit because he started acting weird. Then we got back to his place and he said some things that I can’t exactly remember now, but they made me think he was going to break up with me. Then I went into his bedroom and he went to the bathroom…then he came barreling into the room and said, “I don’t know why I said any of that! I was just looking in the mirror thinking, what are you doing? You love her – cut it out…” and I was like, “wait? you love me?!?” and then I said it too. And we felt much better.

    He and I kissed before our first official date, so yeah. I am all about the kissing.

    #334762 Reply
    honeybeenicki
    Participant

    Lianne – that has got to be one of the cutest things I’ve ever heard. And totally sounds like something that would happen in a movie.

    #334764 Reply
    Lianne
    Participant

    Hahaha – yeah it was pretty surreal in the moment!

    #334770 Reply
    Addie Pray
    Participant

    That is very cute, Lianne!

    For the record, I am never going to date again – well, not for awhile, and nothing rushed. I am such an idiot – I fall so fast and so hard, and it’s never right. On that note, the new/old guy from home that I’ve been talking to/seeing/planning a future with since, oh, I guess we started talking in September it was? We’re done. I’m ok with it being over, but I’m not ok with how quickly and hard I fell and all the stupid, stupid things I do when that happens. I’m so grounded, for the most part, in all other areas of life, but not when it comes to dating and love. So, I quit, for now!

    #334771 Reply
    muchachaenlaventana
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    Oh no, AP I am so sorry. I am glad you are doing okay though. Gosh this sucks 🙁

    #334772 Reply
    MissD
    Participant

    Sorry AP 🙁 what happened??

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