From a LW:

“My situation is that my husband was talking, sexually to a coworker and I found out by getting his phone late at night after her text came through. He denied it but eventually confessed it was only phone calls. I told him to end it. He said he did, I believed him. Fast forward two years later, I find out he never stopped talking to the coworker and that he had another phone to communicate with her except this time it was a full blown affair. I forgave and stayed. Then fast forward 6 months, found out that he had online dating profile, multiple ones active on another phone, the second additional phone I found, along with porn sites and Facebook connections. I went to counseling and he went to counseling -separately. Things seem to be better. Just recently I found that he has been looking up his fetishes again. How much longer do you think I need to stay? I stayed because he is a good man, in general, good father and a good husband, in other areas of our life, but when is enough, enough. And he blames me for letting bad thoughts infiltrate my mind and causing good days to turn bad with arguing.
Advice please!”