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    avatarKate
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    I was worried about my former neighbor doing that. Look, I’m an experienced city dweller and condo dweller. I’m not stupid. We had side-by-side decks and she was growing very tall, ugly plants deliberately blocking our city view. This was against the condo docs and we spoke with her about it. She did not care, and insisted on her right to privacy. Because no HOA was in place yet, we couldn’t enforce it. I worried she’d throw poisoned food over on our deck. I could have poured bleach in her plants but didn’t. If someone’s housecat comes on my property, even if it’s making a ruckus, and even if I know there’s a law against cats on properties, I’m not going to do ANYTHING to potentially hurt the cat. I’m not a douchebag.

    #875423 Reply
    CopaCopa
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    If she lives there and you don’t then she is perceived as being in the right.

    Wow. I seriously disagree with this. If someone was acting inappropriately in the common areas of the building I lived in, I’d either ask them to stop or contact management or the police if I for some reason felt uncomfortable saying something directly. What this woman did was messed up.

    Some people really feel it’s their duty and right to tell dog owners off even when they’re not doing anything wrong. I once had a guy follow me around the block then shout in my face to curb my dog when he was leashed and not on anyone’s property. Last summer, a woman went off on me for my dog being too close to her on a nearly empty patio. He literally wasn’t doing anything to her. To date, the only time I’ve ever seen my boyfriend angry was when this woman got in my face and the restaurant discounted my meal and included a nice note saying my dog was welcome back any time. I don’t expect people to like my dog or want him around, but it’s super fucked up to be passive aggressive (or just aggressive) to resolve a conflict… especially if it means potentially harming an animal.

    @LadyE Your story reminded me of a friend I went to HS with. She had an on/off relationship with one of her exes, and things ended for good when, after one break-up, he took her dog and drove away with it just to abandon it on the side of a freeway. OMFG. Some people are sick.

    #875431 Reply
    Miss MJMiss MJ
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    Speaking of assholes and dogs, I kind of want one of these!

    https://cusscollar.com/

    #875436 Reply
    bittergaymarkBittergaymark
    Guest

    Okay. Wow. What can I say other than I remain quite confused that ANYBODY would even try to defend some unknown, unknown deranged psychopathic puppy murderer…

    Then again —- America is constantly reaching new lows… so why ever should I be surprised?

    🙄

    #875443 Reply
    avatarKate
    Keymaster

    I also just want to say that yelling at someone in the street is not a crime. It’s a daily occurrence in the city. People kind of just go, “look at that, huh.”

    #875444 Reply
    avatarAnge
    Guest

    Why on earth anyone would defend what that woman did is beyond me. She wasn’t even using the fucking yard, why should she care who is running around in there? Usually these total Karen types would at least yell over the fence that the yard is for residents only or some such, she just deliberately went full rampage mode. We always advocate using communication first, but apparently this is ok? Bonkers.

    #875459 Reply
    Miss MJMiss MJ
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    @Kate: That’s so true. City people generally are far more likely to react to someone opening a gate full of dogs to traffic than someone yelling at someone in the street. One of these things is common. The other is sociopathic.

    #875462 Reply
    avatarKate
    Keymaster

    There is no other interpretation of it than malicious fuckery. She walked by, reached out, flipped the metal thingy up like “hey fuckers!” and kept right on walking. There was no, “I’m trying to come in but got scared of the dogs.” What, a baby beagle, a chihuahua, and a baby terrier who are playing together? It was a total psycho move. Like would anyone be trying to excuse this if it were toddlers playing and someone opened the fence to the street or pool on purpose? Who does that?

    I saw on Instagram today that that baby beagle joined the daycare my puppy goes to (he has a unique name so i knew it was him), so they can play together safely.

    #875706 Reply
    avatarAshley
    Guest

    As far as your dogs barking because of the cat…don’t you have curtains? Why are the dogs that bothered by something outside aren’t they used to city living? When my bf first got his pup he created him at night maybe you need to do that and put them in a room with no access to the outside if possible. As far as the parking space goes….let it go. Maybe she felt put on the spot (hehe) and didn’t want to say no to your face. Maybe she rethought if she ever had guests they’d have nowhere to park. Who knows. At this point…you avoid. Get your dogs away from the windows get a white noise machine blackout curtains and so even if she does bang on the wall you can’t hear her.

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