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- February 5, 2020 at 11:34 am #874501
Look up this property by its address. Read the property description and look at a map and see where the property line runs. Google maps show property lines. If both units are on one property then you don’t have a yard that belongs to you. If the property line runs through the building, down the shared wall, then you have a property where you would own your part of the yard if you purchased it. I think it can go either way where I live. If the property line runs through the building you would usually still want to be able to work with the other owner when it came to things like exterior maintenance. Semi-detached homes, what we call a duplex in the US, are very common in England. It’s not unusual to see one where the owner of one side has recently painted or re-roofed and the owner on the other side hasn’t. If the property line runs through the middle of the building you do have more freedom but you can have big headaches. You would be able to run a fence down through the middle of the yard to keep your dogs on your side and perhaps keep her cat on her side.
Give up complaining about her two parking spaces and her visitors parking in her extra space. Of course they park in her space. That’s what she’s using it for. You have no idea how selfish and entitled you sound when you act offended that her guests are parking in her space. She is keeping them off the road and out of your way.
As far as the cat goes I wouldn’t escalate that situation. Retribution can be nasty and your dogs could end up being harmed. It would be easy enough for your dog to eat something laying in the yard that would make it sick. Absolutely get your dogs under control. Record them while you are gone to see how much they bark when you aren’t there. Get a recorder that starts when there is a noise and shuts off when it is quiet. See how much total time they spend barking. The neighbor who isn’t hearing much from your dogs doesn’t have a shared wall so isn’t as likely to hear them.
If your neighbor is afraid of dogs, which might not be, but if she is she will never knock on your door to talk to you because she will be afraid of your dogs who will most likely also be there at the door. If your dogs bark at her a lot through the wall she may definitely not feel comfortable going to your door. Owning dogs that bark a lot can make you an awkward person to approach.February 5, 2020 at 12:05 pm #874504
In a case like this, where you aren’t even certain about how the property is owned and whether a homeowners association needs to be formed you need to go to a lawyer who specializes in real estate before you sign any contract. You need to know basic things like how many homes are on the property. Just yours or all of the townhomes in the group. How is the area zoned. There aren’t many duplexes where I live because all of the towns and townships have zoned for single family homes or condos. What is the zoning where you live? If it is zoned for single family homes but the homes are all on one big property do you need to legally split your property off from the larger property or is it already separate or do you have to turn it into a condo type ownership. Don’t buy until you know what you are getting and that what you are getting works for you.February 5, 2020 at 6:00 pm #874539dirtorsoilGuest
Get a dog nanny cam, then you can see objectively if they indeed bark or not. Call the police on dogs barking? That sounds insane. Idk where you live, but in my neighborhood the police would laugh at that call. If your dogs are barking get a walker. Bored and restless dogs bark, and leaving them inside all day alone (assuming this is the case) is at the very least not ideal for the dogs. Get curtains so your dogs cannot see the cat. Give up on the parking space issue, its not worth it. _If_ you are deadset on buying this place think very carefully about what the daily stress of dealing with this would do to your quality of life. If you share a wall, they have undue influence over your life. That’s just a factFebruary 6, 2020 at 9:42 am #874606CETGuest
My advice is to not buy this townhome but keep looking and find a different one. If you do buy it then ignore her. Do not ask to use a parking space. Bring your dogs inside if they are barking. Keep working on training them to not bark (this is super annoying to have a neighbor with dogs that bark a lot). Yes ANY neighbor might report that to animal control. You will need to deal with this if you have barking dogs.It’s not something to get angry at her about…it’s something you need to get under control. Ignore her cat and don’t talk to her about it if it is outside your window. Ignore things she does that are rude. Just live your life and be distant but polite.February 6, 2020 at 10:18 pm #874671Mrs. DanversGuest
You sound like a horrid neighbor too. What type of person traps someone’s cat and then turns it into the shelter? How would you feel if she did that with one or your dogs? You know what I think is going on? You are playing “Quien es mas macho” with your neighbor. An emotionally healthy person would have moved out already but a crazy one sticks around and decides to go to war with her neighbor.February 7, 2020 at 8:10 am #874682HalGuest
Just wanted to say…. You cannot control where a cat goes. It’ll go wherever it wants to. To say she should keep her outdoor cat indoors just for you is crazy! And also she should control her car? Lol have you ever tried controlling a cat? It’s not possible. Cats are independent pets. They will go where they want. Seriously I feel sorry for your neighbour. You sound like the crazy neighbour from hell and yes having a dog bark for 2 minutes is more annoying than a car sitting on your window. Get over yourself.February 16, 2020 at 6:01 pm #875365KateKeymaster
Whoa. Related to this, something so fucked up just happened. A lady tried to get 3 dogs killed!
My husband and I were walking our puppy, and we walked by this apartment or condo building that has a big fenced-in yard. I used to let my previous dog in there when he was old and had lost his eyesight. Tonight, two little dogs were playing in there, and one was a puppy the same age as ours. The two women invited us in. So we’re in there and my puppy is playing with the other puppy, which is a beagle and has a loud baying type of bark. All of a sudden someone walks by and hits the latch on the gate, which swings wide open by gravity when it’s open. Somehow by the grace of god the dogs didn’t run out of the yard and get hit by a car, but it was close, and that was obviously the intention. My husband got the gate shut and went after them yelling “hey! What the fuck did you do that for? What the fuck is wrong with you?!“ If it was a guy, he would have beaten him up, but I guess it was an older lady. He followed her around the corner, and of course she lives in that building. She wouldn’t turn around and look at him.
I seriously cannot believe someone would do that! But it goes to show that neighbors can get pissed enough to try to kill your puppy.February 16, 2020 at 6:31 pm #875366BittergaymarkGuest
He should have fucking killed her.
Brutally. Violently. Painfully.February 16, 2020 at 6:41 pm #875367KateKeymaster
I was fired up enough that I would have thrown punches. I didn’t get a look at her, but the opening of the gate was super deliberate and she just kept walking coolly. Psychotic!February 16, 2020 at 7:14 pm #875368BittergaymarkGuest
Pity. This isn’t in LA. I’d go set a trap — then wait.February 16, 2020 at 9:32 pm #875371Miss MJParticipant
Ooooohhhhh my god. I’d have chased that old bitch down. Cunts like that deserve all the ugly shit they get.February 17, 2020 at 9:19 am #875396
Not at all trying to be rude or confrontational about this.
Are there cameras around the building? If so the older lady could have filed a police report about people harassing her on the property where she lived. Your husband chased an elderly lady while shouting at her. Of course she kept going. She wouldn’t have felt safe enough to stop. You admit that you were angry enough to hit her. Are you really surprised she didn’t stop.
In general, you can assume a fence means stay out if you don’t belong there. So the question becomes did the people who invited you to come in live there or were they trespassing? If they were trespassing then so were you. The woman’s motives would be irrelevant.
The usual intent of a fence is to put up a boundary that people aren’t supposed to cross. It isn’t to make their green space the local community dog park. The woman could easily have opened the gate to see if any of you belonged there with no thought of killing puppies.
At work I hear so many complaints about people walking their dogs where they don’t belong or about not cleaning up behind them. People without dogs complain about the dogs being in places they don’t belong, like the school playground and people who own dogs complain about needing to clean up after other people’s dogs because they are afraid the local parks that are open to dogs will ban them.
Locally we need a dog park. We really need a dog park. At the same time the need for a dog park doesn’t mean that people should be letting their dogs off leash on the local school playground. It’s fenced to protect children but not to be a dog park.
You don’t know why that property has a fence but you should respect the fence and stay off the property. You literally could have a police report filed on you for trespassing and threatening an elderly lady. Just avoid that place.