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January 10, 2019 at 2:37 pm #815204
My son has a therapist, a psychiatrist, a pastor, and a support group. I don’t know what I haven’t done or tried. I still show up everyday and hold him accountable.
Embarrassed because I am judged as a woman. He dated a woman almost half my age before me, he can date someone similar after me and nobody will say anything. Me- I am dating down because he isn’t a lawyer or a doctor. I desperate because I haven’t held out for some equal in income, stature , and intelligence. I should learn to be happy being single.January 10, 2019 at 2:48 pm #815206
Are YOU a doctor or a lawyer?January 10, 2019 at 2:48 pm #815207
I am sorry that he pulled out of your wedding. It doea not make you a loser or mean that you deserve to settle for half a loaf forever. Many people have broken engagements and go on to have happy lives. You need to start that process by moving out and moving on.January 10, 2019 at 2:57 pm #815208
The only way you’re being judged that I can see is you moved back in with someone who canceled your wedding.
You’re being really vague about your son, so that’s why you’re getting pushback and people asking for clarification.January 10, 2019 at 2:59 pm #815209
Accountable? For what? It’s not a war, you know. This raising of your son.
And NEWSFLASH… honestly? Your attitude doesn’t exactly imply you are much of a catch. So… The guy didn’t marry you. Move the fuck on already. PS — get off the cross. Others, surely, need the wood.January 10, 2019 at 3:04 pm #815210
YES, you should focus on being happy and being SINGLE.
This man embarrassed you and yet you still moved in with him? Focus on yourself and your son and move out. If the guy is such a deadbeat then you don’t need him to put a roof over your head so moving out should logistically be easier. You should also consider getting your own therapist and possibly a family therapist.January 10, 2019 at 3:08 pm #815211
The things you think people look down on your for are all in your head. Let me help you with this one thing many people don’t seem to get. People aren’t thinking about you. It’s that simple. No one really cares that much. You just think they do.January 10, 2019 at 3:21 pm #815213
Oh,his light bulb has gone off, he does not want to marry you with or without your son. Since you state your income is good move out. Even if it wasn’t you still need to move out. This guy is going to find someone else, it’s just a matter of time. Your terms or his. You state you have tried everything with your son. No you have NOT. There are many good therapeutic boarding schools. When things are not working you try something else. Would do you son a world of good to be in different situation with one on one trained help.January 10, 2019 at 3:21 pm #815214
And what almost everyone else said: there is nothing here to be negotiated. Just MOA.January 10, 2019 at 3:21 pm #815215
Also, why isn’t your son’s father helping and caring for his child part of the time?January 10, 2019 at 3:44 pm #815217
I am a nuclear scientist and I spend 10 hours a day with nuclear scientists and I don’t want to go home to a nuclear scientist.
My son’s father left when my son was 18 months and hasn’t been involved since. His involvement extended as far as me and my money and when I cut those two off it was over.January 10, 2019 at 3:51 pm #815218
No one cares who you want to go home to or not. Stop with your obsession with other people’s perceptions. That is literally the very least Of your problems. Get yourself into some therapy.