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HR Presentation to tell Adults to be Adults – Suggestions Please

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  • #1099586 Reply

    Agree this wouldn’t make a lot of sense. If it were a situation like, the company is being acquired and people are all kind of freaking out and jumping to conclusions and you have a meeting where question actually get answered, sure, but this seems ineffective.

    I sometimes do push back on my boss about stuff but ultimately if she’s firm about it, I have to do it. So if you have to, just keep it quick and factual about information channels.

    #1099596 Reply

    I mean, I wish that people wouldn’t gossip but I think that people are going to talk about what’s happening at the office.

    The thing with the new hire seems to be something that would have been preempted by telling people that she would be in training that week and people wouldn’t be able to find her in the office.

    The supervisor shouldn’t be participating in the gossip, but I’m not sure that you can really expect people to not discuss things happening in their workplace. People understand at the workplace that (A) things are happening out of their control and (B) they are not really going to be given any kind of straight scoop about it. What do you expect to happen? I’ve never worked anywhere pre pandemic where there wasn’t general gossip about what was happening behind the scenes. It has often been useful to me because workplaces rarely operate in a transparent and rational way and it helped me avoid missteps or working with difficult people.

    #1099597 Reply

    The more I think about this if I were given a message from management not to gossip, my formal response would be “of course,” and my internal response would be “fuck you, absolutely not.” Management doesn’t get to decide what workers talk about among themselves and workers would be incredibly foolish to operate entirely on what management tells them through official channels.

    #1099600 Reply

    Ohhhh, I am thinking of “gossip” in a different way. I see. Gossip to me is: “Susan got a boob job to try to keep her husband.” Or “Jim in finance got divorced after 39 days.” Stuff like that.

    If it is “they are going to close that whole division and lay everyone off” — that is not gossip in my mind. That is information, and people have a right to know what is happening. Management cannot share everything all the time, but nor can they expect people not to look out for each other either.

    If there are a lot of rumors about employment security, then mgmt needs to look at how it is treating the staff overall. That’s not a gossip problem. That’s a morale problem, and mgmt is responsible for it.

    #1099620 Reply

    Some weird gossip recently has just been who has or has not been vaccinated and it’s like such a stigma if you have a sniffly nose even if you have tested negative.

    #1099627 Reply

    I see little value in holding a presentation about gossip. Those that love gossip are just going to gossip about why you had to give a presentation about gossip and what prompted it.

    However, if it’s absolutely a “this must happen” then I’d focus on the three rules of gossip:

    Is it true – do I know this piece of information to be absolutely true? Would I stake my reputation on repeating it? If I had to repeat it in front of the big boss, some authority figure like a judge or cop would I add caveats like “Well I heard it from…” or “I’m not sure if this is absolutely true but…”

    Is it necessary? – is my repeating this gossip going to actually change the situation? Is it going to make things better, make them worse or not change a thing? If it’s not going to make things better, why do I need to repeat this?

    Is it kind? – If my gossip would hurt someone, hurt someone’s feelings, hurt their career, hurt my career, hurt this business then why do I think it’s a good idea? What do I get out of being unkind? Does that make me an unkind person and is that the person I want to be?

    #1099736 Reply

    Hi, I am a senior HR professional with 18 years of experience. Don’t give the presentation.

    Instead, you need to do some investigating, and then address the issues directly with whoever is the culprit. Have a conversation with whoever reported the gossiping to understand what is being said and who is affected. Then, have a discussion with the gossipers to hear their side of the story and to address the issue in a way that is clear, focused, and actionable. Gossip is a pretty broad term, so I’d want to really understand what is happening and why, and find the underlying issue. I guarantee there is one, or more than one.

    If you need any feedback along the way, I’d be happy to connect further.

    But generally, don’t attempt to teach people to be adults. Address specific behaviors, with a business reason. And address them to the people who need to do the changes.

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