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I didn’t take my ex-best friend to Disneyland a year ago but was I wrong?

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    avatarElliot
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    I didn’t take my ex-best friend to Disneyland like I said but am I really wrong? Trigger warning for sexual abuse and addiction

    This happened over a year ago but it still haunts me and I need to know if I’m in the wrong. My best friend at the time, we’ll call her Z, had two friends A and C. The three of them all struggled with addiction and other things, I come from a different background. A, he was 25 or so, C lived with him she was 20 and they had sexual relations, weren’t in a relationship (C is in love with A) and Z had slept with them a few times. I was about 18 at the time and was like hm ok cool. We would smoke and A did body painting, he always asked what I was comfortable with and I always felt like my boundaries were respected. A few times into hanging out A made a move while painting and I was comfortable so I let him continue. Later he talked to me about it and I shared I would be interested in sex with him but that was about it After hanging out with them a few times Z saw what happened with A and kept mentioning we should have group sex. I personally was not into it or ready for that and I told Z this but every time we would go over she would joke about it. It got to the point where as I’m driving us over I’d specifically tell her “I’m not having group sex with these people today or ever”. Well one time I met her there and it all went south. We got high and I was tired we were all resting. Z and A went out for a cig and I was chillin dozing in and out. Once they came back I don’t really know how it happened but there was an orgy and I was in it. I was confused but I didn’t really say anything because I didn’t know what to say or how to get out of it. Afterwards it was triggering for me, I’ve had sexual abuse in the past and this was something I expressed I didn’t want. As we were going home I told Z that that was absolutely not ok and because I expressed I wasn’t interested this was overstepping a huge line. She got pissed saying I had no right to be upset because I didn’t say anything while it was happening. We didn’t talk for a bit but we had tickets to Disneyland for spring break. She got kicked out of her house for relapsing (on the adderall she took from my glove box without my knowledge) and I take her to A and C house. Z goes to a meeting and C tells me she wants to speak to me privately. Apparently z told them I was going to the cops for sexual assault which I never said. I explained how I felt and that I’m sure there was a misunderstanding. Weellll turns out while Z and A were smoking Z kept telling him how much I wanted this and how I kept talking about having sex with all of them so he went for it. After I found that out I was disgusted, changed her plane ticket and went with someone else. Right after I found all of this out Z, C and I tried to have a discussion but obviously Z was just denying things. This honestly isn’t even half the shit I put up with when I was her friend but that was the end. I just couldn’t stay in a room with her on vacation. Am I absolutely horrible?

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    avatarCoyote
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    Seriously kid, you need help. Reading everything that comes before the whole Disney ticket thing is what I think you need to be concerned with here. I really think Disney is the least of your problems here.

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    avatarCoyote
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    You should speak to a therapist about what happened to you. It’s concerning. It wasn’t okay what they did. Don’t make contact with them again. For any reason.

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