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I hate my new-ish job

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    the_optimistthe_optimist
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    Oh, to be clear, I am absolutely not going to just quit– I can’t afford to for one thing, and I’m also well aware of how fortunate I am to still have a job right now. I didn’t mean to come across as bratty, and I’m well aware of how minor this problem is in the grand scheme of things. And yes, I do need to try and figure out a way to reframe the situation. I’m just having a hard time adjusting, and was used to a different working environment. Definitely a “culture fit” issue for me here, and I’m having a harder time with that than I expected, on top of the job being very different from what I expected. I understand that interviews won’t always paint an accurate picture of the day-to-day, but it’s hard not to feel like I was duped (something my supervisor all but confirmed). But yes, good points all around. I guess it’s good to be aware of the environment I’m working in, for however long I’m in it.

    Really do appreciate all the input.

    #878547 Reply
    avatarKate
    Keymaster

    Next time you interview, see if they’ll let you talk to a few more people before you accept. Particularly more junior ppl. They’re probably not going to come right out and tell you it sucks there, but the more people you talk to, I think they’ll give you clues.

    I got somewhat duped in my last job, which was a tiny company and I only talked to the owner and CEO and a woman I had worked with in a prior job. Sometimes you do get duped.

    #878548 Reply
    the_optimistthe_optimist
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    Kate– excellent advice! I’ll remember that for next time. Funny enough, you just jogged my memory. Before I accepted, I ran into an old colleague who worked at this place and left after about a year. He was vague about his reasons for leaving, had some nice things to say about the company, and was excited for me, but I specifically remember him saying the job was not at all what he thought it would be. I wrote it off at the time (dumb) but it’s making me realize it might be a pattern with this place. Something to think about.

    #878597 Reply
    avatarFYI
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    Okay? I guess? I mean, people on here kindly told you ways to clean up your side of the street, and you’re basically saying, “Yes, I agree. I was duped though. Oh, and here’s some guy as evidence.”

    That response indicates that you’re more invested in being right, in sticking to your own narrative, than you are in really absorbing and implementing the advice. :: shrug ::

    Happens more often than not, whether it’s career or love life or family “advice.” People mostly want validation of their position, not suggestions on how to change.

    #878600 Reply
    avatarKate
    Keymaster

    I think she was just responding to my comment about trying to talk to multiple people before you decide. If you could talk to 5 people and you got the same kinds of hints from 2 or more of them, that’s a pattern. If you hear it from one person, it’s easier to blow off.

    #878606 Reply
    the_optimistthe_optimist
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    Yep, was just responding to Kate. I genuinely came here for advice, which I received and am grateful for.

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