- January 8, 2019 at 12:52 am #814844Josh B.Guest
Alright, so I know this sounds absolutely ridiculous, but please hear me out. I have a crush on this new anchorwoman on one of the local news stations where I live. I think she’s very pretty, but I also think she seems like an extremely nice person. I really enjoy meeting new people and making new friends, but it’s been really difficult for me to meet nice girls in the area because I don’t really enjoy going out to the bars much and am not much of a party person if that makes sense. I also don’t do online dating or use any dating apps. I just thought it would be really cool to be able to meet her and maybe get to know her. I’m in my late 20’s and I would guess she’s about the same age as me judging from her looks. I was just wondering how weird it would be to send her an email about this. The news website has her email info listed on it and that is the only contact information that I would have. To me, I think it would be really weird, but I’m tired of not taking chances on girls that I’m attracted to (not just looks, but personality, too). I’m kind of picky when it comes to women, but I’m telling you, this girl seems like one in a million to me. I don’t think there would ever really be any chance that we would meet in person. I also don’t really know if she’s single, but she doesn’t wear a ring so I guess there’s a chance. Anyway, I know this post probably sounds weird and ridiculous, but I just wanted to see if there’s an off chance that anyone thinks this could ever work out. Any advice is appreciated. I appreciate honesty, but if you could please not absolutely tear me to pieces and tell me how terrible of a person I am, that would be great! If you say it would be weird, I will totally get it and not email her. Thanks in advance!January 8, 2019 at 6:02 am #814852
All right, it sounds like for whatever reasons, you can’t or don’t really engage with women in real life. This pretty, smiling, professional woman on TV is a fantasy. You’re hoping you can connect with her via email. Sure you can send her an email telling her you admire her and would like to meet, but I will tell you there is less than zero chance she would reply and you’d meet. Nothing personal, she just would not. Too dangerous.
If you’re able to send an email to a woman, why on earth don’t you try online dating? See, there, women have put themselves out there for dating and they welcome introductory messages. A news anchor doesn’t.January 8, 2019 at 6:11 am #814853
Also. If she’s single, she probably goes out with friends and has an online dating profile. Again, if she is single and interested in dating. That would be the right way to approach her for dating.
Another thought… You say she seems nice and you think she has a good personality. But see, that’s her work persona. She’s on TV, she needs to come across likeable. I get the sense when you say you’re “picky” and don’t take chances to talk to women, that you’re really afraid of rejection. So this nice-seeming lady on TV isn’t so scary. She’s not really real. You don’t know anything about her. But she seems nice. If you wouldn’t approach her in a bar or via a dating site, I think that says something… you’d be scared to deal with the reality of her. You feel like her TV persona is somehow safe. But remember, that’s not a real person… it’s a lady doing her job, with a mask of makeup on and talking to a camera. It’s not real life. It’s not the face she’s put forward for socializing and dating.
January 8, 2019 at 6:53 am #814855LisforLeslieGuest
- This reply was modified 10 months, 1 week ago by Kate.
Remember she seems nice because she is on camera. When she is on camera, she has on her Meteorologist Persona. Off camera she could be meaner than a white girl the day after pumpkin spice is retired for the season.
You are not going to meet women through your TV. Look for activities that you like, sports, books, photography. Make friends, women and men, who know other people to whom they can introduce you.
Online dating works too -it’s a numbers game, but it does work for a lot of people.January 8, 2019 at 7:43 am #814857JDGuest
Super weird but just for the record I’ve had a crush on Dallas Raines since I was about 5, remains to this day.January 8, 2019 at 7:46 am #814859JDGuest
Meaner that a white girl the day after they stop pumkin spice lattes! I’m cackling. I’d like to note as a white girl that the very smell of those makes me ill. That is hysterical though.January 8, 2019 at 8:24 am #814867ronGuest
I agree with the other posters. Like actresses, TV newscasters are playing a role — there’s a reason they call them ‘personalities’ and why they act like they are the world’s closest group of friends when they’re on air. Their success depends upon the viewers liking them as people and thinking of them as ‘family’. The anchors of one of our local/regional newscasts actually ends every 11:00 news with “goodnight, family”.
It really does sound like you are actively avoiding what you really need: dating experience with women you encounter in real life. You describe this as being ‘picky’ but it really sounds like choosing fantasy over reality. Every human being has flaws. This includes you. Stop being so picky and stop being so frightened of rejection. Every guy who wants to date faces rejection. With dating apps, it is at least anonymous rejection. You should give it a shot.January 8, 2019 at 8:56 am #814873EssieParticipant
I agree with everyone else: she’s essentially an actress, playing a role, and her personality is almost certainly very different than what you see on TV. Her appearance is probably quite different, too. On TV, she’s dressed by professional stylists and made up by make-up artists. She’s the very definition of a fantasy figure.
Don’t send an e-mail. She probably gets hundreds of them every week from men who want to meet her.
January 8, 2019 at 9:38 am #814881EssieParticipant
- This reply was modified 10 months, 1 week ago by Essie.
And, remember that bars and dating apps and parties are not the only way to meet women. My best, longest lasting relationships were with classmates, coworkers, and friends of friends. And I wasn’t looking for a boyfriend in any of those cases, they were just people I met while living my life.
Just put yourself out there more. The more people you’re in contact with, the more friends you’ll make, and some of those friends will be women, and some of those friendships with women will turn into more.
Volunteer, go to meetups for things you’re interested in, take a class.January 8, 2019 at 9:43 am #814882
Which… all of that is probably what this news anchor is doing or trying to do if she wants to meet friends and dating partners. You said she’s new on the show, maybe she’s new to the area as well.January 8, 2019 at 10:02 am #814883VathenaGuest
I agree with everyone else – you could send the email, but in all likelihood it would be immediately deleted. As an attractive woman in the public eye, she probably gets dozens (or more) of those messages every week. I’m sure that you have already thought of this, but it can be frightening for a woman to receive unsolicited emails from strange men who have a sexual interest in them. A woman in that position doesn’t know who might be a genuinely nice person, and who might be a deranged psycho stalker rapist. Who might escalate from, “Dear Anchorwoman, You seem great and I enjoy watching you on TV! Would love to buy you a coffee sometime!” to “You bitch, you’re ugly anyway and you better watch your back!” These things happen ALL the time. It’s the same as a catcall on the street – ignore some guys, and they might come after you and call you a fat whore or whatever. I assume your intention is not to scare this woman, so definitely err on the side of not sending the email. Focus on meeting women IRL.January 8, 2019 at 10:21 am #814886
And you know, whether or not other guys are emailing her, that’s her work email. It’s for people to contact her with, idk, tips about local news, or to connect with her professionally. It’s not for personal/dating stuff. If she wants to be contacted for dating, then she has personal social media accounts where she can be messaged, and / or online dating profiles. Women don’t want to be hit on via work email.