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I have a MAJOR crush on my married boss!

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    avatarSarah B
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    I have a dilemma, so I just started working at Golden Corral and I have a major, super, strong crush on my married boss. I know nothing will ever come out of it because he seems to be very happy with his marriage as of right now. I’m just a piece in his game and I know he doesn’t care about me like that at all but I just cannot get him out of my mind! It’s literally driving me nuts and I don’t know what to do! :/ I try so hard to just keep my mind busy and not think of him but its so hard to just stop thinking of him. I really want to stop but I don’t know how. I mean he is my MARRIED BOSS!!!! I really wish something could happen but at the same time I know I would feel a little guilty if I was the cause of it or if it didn’t work out. I have constant thoughts about him and sometimes fantasies about what could happen. I need advice and fast!!! Please help!!

    Sarah

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    avatarLyra
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    You need to get him out of your head, like yesterday. Nothing can happen. Nothing will happen. You need to get him out of your fantasies. Since you say he’s still in your head, that tells me you’re not trying hard enough to get him out of there. Focus on school, focus on a new hobby, whatever it takes. There’s no way you will be with him, so don’t waste your time.

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    avatarSarah B
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    It’s not like I think anything will happen but you know no one knows what could happen in the future and believe me I am trying

    #335017 Reply
    avatarLyra
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    I know you’re trying, but you really just have to stay busy. Any time you catch yourself thinking about him, read a book or go study or work out or something. Flirt with guys your own age (I’m assuming you’re younger?), go on dates, kiss a lot of guys. You HAVE to treat this like he is unobtainable…because he is. The fact that you say “you know no one knows what could happen in the future” tells me that you still think there might be a slim chance. In order to quash that feeling completely, go on lots of dates, stay busy, everything I mentioned above.

    #335018 Reply
    avatarSarah B
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    I’m 23 and I know what you’re saying but I know anything could happen there’s no doubt about that. And I AM trying really hard. And believe it or not people get divorces and fall for people they never think they would. Thanks anyway.

    #335019 Reply
    avatarSummerRose
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    “And believe it or not people get divorces and fall for people they never think they would”.

    So your plan is to do what, hold out hope he’ll get a divorce?

    #335020 Reply
    avatarSarah B
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    No I don’t wanna hold out until he might get a divorce I’m just saying

    #335021 Reply
    avatarLyra
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    I can see how what I said above might have come off that way but I’m seriously not trying to be mean here. He’s unobtainable and that’s all you really need to know. Like I said, go on dates with other guys to get your mind off of him if you need to. Flirt like crazy. Start a new project or whatever. As long as that thought of “well, sometimes people leave others to be with someone unexpected”, is on your mind, you won’t be able to move on from this.

    #335022 Reply
    avatarjlyfsh
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    your responses don’t seem like you actually want advice. do you want someone to say just wait and see, he might just leave his wife? if you want to cause drama and surround your life with drama by all means keep thinking he might leave his wife and that the two of you might have a chance. but ask yourself if that was even a possibility do you really want a relationship that starts that way? my advice would be to read lyra’s advice and follow it.

    #335023 Reply

    I do want advice && I am taking both of yours advice. I’m definitely not gonna try anything. But I can still look.

    #335025 Reply
    avatarjlyfsh
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    Look, like at him? That is a definite way of not being able to get over this idea of him. You need to change how you see him from potential date to boss.

    #335026 Reply

    I know.

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