Sarah dear, no one is trying to be intentionally mean. The things you first stated are incredibly hypocritical and dont really align. At all. It is ok to have a silly crush on your married boss- where you know it is innocent, but you say he is happy for now in his marriage…and that you are jsut another piece of his game. Duh, what? If he is nice and naturally flirty, then honestly, he is probably quite good at his job as a manager at Golden Corral. Cool off on your crush and stop fantasizing about breaking up his marriage.
So what is your question then even? How to stop thinking about him? People have given you ideas and you don’t like the advice. What did you want to hear from people?
To me, you shouldn’t automatically strike him from your mind and feel guilty that you were attracted to him. Attraction is as natural as breathing and is grounded in evolution. I feel like on an instinctual level we are attracted to people who complement us in some way. The trick is figuring out why you are attracted to them before you act on the attraction.
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Try to figure out what it is about him that you find so engrossing, sexy, etc. Is it because he seems like a stable family man and you want that? Does he seem just more mature than the guys you normally date? Is he nice and considerate and that really appeals to you? There has to be something that is subconsciously making an impression on you.
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I think once you figure out what it is that is attracting you to him, you will be able to get your crush on him under control. You will realize it isn’t really him that you’re attracted to but a particular (or several) quality that he possesses then you can look for those qualities in men who are available to date you.
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FWIW, I think all or most of us have been in similar situations and we are trying to guide you away from putting yourself into a bad spot.
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