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February 19, 2015 at 2:43 am #336440CaptainswifeGuest
I was going to! I swear, it crossed my mind! So here goes… “Enjoy Sweden!”
I still haven’t had my cinnamon roll. But I have had homemade marmalade.February 19, 2015 at 10:31 am #336463joannaParticipant
My sister and I are 4 years apart. She never understood that she was younger than me and whenever I received a privilege because of my age she would demand the same be given to her at the age she was. For example, when I turned 17 I was allowed to start watching rated R movies. She demanded at 13 that she be able to watch them. My mom always gave in to her demands too. We also fought like cats and dogs when we were younger, right up until when I was 25 and she was 21. Now we get along and she is not as volatile as she used to be.February 19, 2015 at 11:52 am #336490snoopy128Participant
My brother and I are two years apart and we still get into big tiffs every once in a while. Mind you, we are still in our early 20’s. As a kid he was always jealous when I got to do things. He has this complex where he thinks he always gets less than me because I was getting more (allowance, later curfew, freedoms) than him because I was older. He still carries that chip on his shoulder a bit. I swear, he still has a running tally in his head of things I go to do that he didn’t (or that he thinks he didn’t get but should have because I did). He also lived in my shadow quite a bit. However, as we grow up, we are getting closer.
I’ve never given this age gap thing a lot of thought, but I don’t think I’d want more than 3ish year between my kids. My boyfriend and his eldest brother are 4 years apart and they aren’t super close (in a situation where family is all very close) because they were always in different life stages (never in the same high school or uni at the same time).February 19, 2015 at 11:57 am #336492StephGuest
Wendy – My brother & I are 3 years and 8 months apart. I’m the oldest and when he was first born I LOVED him. Treated him like one of my baby dolls. I was changing his diaper like a pro in 3 or 4 months.
We fought growing up, but I was more of tomboy and was extremely competitive. And it was no more than normal sibling fights. When I left for college (he was a sophomore in high school) is about the time our relationship changed. And once he hit about 23 and was more of an adult we became really good friends. Now that I’m 31 and he is 27 I don’t know what I’d do without him. We have dinner together once a week and we regularly intersect our friend groups to hang out.
I think it’s a great age and he’s the best brother. I could only imagine with the age difference we at if he was the older sibling how protective he would have been growing up.February 19, 2015 at 12:05 pm #336497TaylorGuest
Yay siblings! My sis is 10 years older than me, and we get along famously. It helps that we were a united front against my good, but fairly strict parents for much of our lives =) So, too close and there can be competition and fighting for researchers, too long and there can be lack of common interests, but it seems like as long as your parents are reasonable-ish, and siblings also grow up to be reasonable-ish, things work themselves out in adulthood?
Anyone chiming in for only children out there?February 19, 2015 at 12:39 pm #336514KGuest
Is anyone an only child? I am, and when I was younger I didn’t mind at all. I still don’t really mind necessarily, but I think now that I’m older, I wish I had a sibling. Especially because my parents are divorced, and my mom is overprotective, and it would be nice to have someone else who understands.February 19, 2015 at 12:41 pm #336515KateGuest
My husband is, and wishes he had had siblings.February 19, 2015 at 12:44 pm #336518TaylorGuest
*Resources, not researchers. No edit button! Do I need to be logged in for that?February 19, 2015 at 12:48 pm #336520Dear WendyKeymaster
I just made a change on the editing function. Can you see it now? If not, try logging in.February 19, 2015 at 12:49 pm #336522MsMiseryParticipant
@K I am an only. I have some step-siblings, but I didn’t acquire them until I was a teen, so we aren’t close. Plus my step-mother really promotes that “my family vs. your family” mentality so it can be hard. I really only get along with my younger step-sis, because she’s tired of everyone’s dramz, too.
I never ever wanted siblings growing up. As an adult, I still don’t want them really, but it might be nice to have someone help with the whole “parents getting old” thing. I am scared to death about that.February 19, 2015 at 12:53 pm #336527KGuest
I’m scared about that too…knowing that everything will be my decision. My dad has a girlfriend, but my mom has never dated anyone after getting divorced, so she will be alone in her old age.February 19, 2015 at 1:00 pm #336530MsMiseryParticipant
My parents have both remarried, but my mom’s husband is younger than her. And I would not be surprised if my dad’s current marriage didn’t stand the test of time. They love each other, I think, but there’s just a lot of stress there. Anyway he is also the oldest of 9 siblings so hopefully I will have some aunts and uncles (albeit elderly themselves) to help with this stuff.
I just have to get my dad to make a will. I have been up his ass about it recently. I’m only 32 and I’ve already filled out the paperwork to have my body donated to science. Just deal with it!! I know his wishes and his wife’s would be COMPLETELY different, so it all needs to be on paper.