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I have an intense attraction to a guy 20 years older than me and i'm 17, help?

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    ron

    Fyodor’s advice, which you belittle is actually excellent advice. You are perpetuating your feelings by continuing to go to his restaurant. Just stop! It seems he is not interested in you. That’s good. If he were interested, that would make him a total creep. You have a crush. The way to get past it is not to keep hanging around the guy.

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    FireStar
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    It’s inappropriate. And you may not be able to stop a crush but you can stop feeding it. Stop stalking his social media. And Fyodor was right. Stop going to that restaurant. You have to do the action first of walking away from this and then the feelings will fade.

    #846177 Reply

    I don’t think she was belittling. Or I just want to hope someone would actually take the good advice given to them.

    #846191 Reply

    thank you, you’re really sweet and i’m happy for you that you finally got over him!!!!

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    jlk1234

    Once you turn 18 just ask him out. Worst he can say is no. Be prepared that the age difference will mean it likely won’t work out for you guys (old soul or not you likely haven’t experienced even half of what he has) and also be prepared for a LOT of people judging your relationship. People will think he’s a pervert and that you have daddy issues and they will probably tell you both that. People love to give unsolicited opinions about stuff that doesn’t concern them. If you can handle it then go for it (in 3 months when you are a legal adult) maybe slow your stalking roll before then and see if you still feel this crush when you aren’t constantly feeding it though.

    #846434 Reply

    No, don’t proposition a 40 year old man when you are “legal.”

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